Her Korean culture conditioned Py to believe that without a perfect body, she would never find a good man. Self help books (including the one she just wrote!) changed her mind, her body and her marital status.
Py's Story
"No man ever told me I was pretty."
For most of my life I was heavy, unhappy, unattractive and depressed. Much of my adult life consisted of long distance relationships with men who were hardly ever there. And none of them -- not one -- ever told me I was pretty. It was not until 35 that I figured out that my lack of beauty and sex appeal and femininity were keeping me from the relationship I so desperately desired. At that defining moment, I realized that I had to make being attractive and feminine a high priority and make some changes in my ways of pursuing a mate. I set a goal and wrote an action plan to get married by 40. Over the next 21 months, I lost 40 pounds. I read more than 50 books about sex, dating, and relationships, and then I created my own dating rules.
"I learned some truths about men."
Men are visual and love beauty in a woman. Men are sexual and love sexiness in a woman. Men are masculine and love femininity in a woman. I decided that I would be much more selective in choosing the men I would date and get involved with, rather than living out of my desperation that had previously gotten me chasing after and involved with men that were not good for me. Also, I determined that I would accept no excuses and would go from obese to thin, so that I could attract (rather than attack or ambush) men to me and, eventually, choose a "Good Man" to get involved with, fall mutually, in love with and marry---all of which I did!
"Now I am happy."
I am motivated, in love, and full of ideas and action plans for my life. I'm very sexy and have a husband who encourages that. I now teach half-time (and have for the last three years), and spend much of my free time writing and having three books of mine published in Korean. Sex Secrets of an American Geisha is my first English-language book.
Now when I am walking down the street, I see people looking at me because I am a sexy and feminine woman. I never felt like that before. I'm much more alive than I used to be. I feel like I am a champion of the world.
