By David Romanelli Provided by: YEAH DAVE

Livin' the Moment

3 Tips for Being the Best Valentine Posted Wed, Feb 13, 2008, 10:54 am PST

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  • 1. Posted by tory_r on Wed, Feb 13, 2008, 3:31 pm PST

    I love the Rumi quote. We put up so many barriers to love. There is so much fear of losing it, but if it's real, it's never really lost, even when the barriers go up. You just need to find a way to let them down to realize it. '

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  • 2. Posted by maria r on Wed, Feb 13, 2008, 6:36 pm PST

    Dancing from the inside out. WOM

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  • 3. Posted by meggie -moonshadow wolf on Thu, Feb 14, 2008, 5:06 pm PST

    Kudos!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you

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  • 4. Posted by whirlingwhitewind on Fri, Feb 15, 2008, 6:48 am PST

    Falling in love - the very words imply loss of control, and the danger of hitting bottom and getting hurt. Being in love, on the other hand, expresses choice and a state of "being". I believe we can "be in love" all the time: with ourselves, with our partner, with our children, with life... Consider - if someone comes to love, it is because of who you are - they cannot cherry-pick the bits they really like and reject the ones they don't. You are not, after all, just the cherries! You are the whole tree! If we have to repress, remove or stop doing those bits that were previously part of who we were, than we are no longer the same person, and as such not the person that they came to love... If you love someone for who you want them to be rather than who they really are, you have 2 choices: love them for who they really are, or move on and find the person you really want. If you thought they were someone else and find out they are quite different over time, again, the same two choices apply. You CAN'T change someone else, and you should not change yourself to make someone else happy, either - it doesn't work! "To thine own self be true"! The biggest gift to yourself and others is to be yourself - only then can you truly offer yourself. And you can only do that if you spend the time to know yourself and can be happy alone with yourself! Happy Heart Day everyone, a little late but better late than never, LOL! xoWWW

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  • 5. Posted by maria r on Mon, Feb 18, 2008, 5:59 am PST

    This is an awesome article Dave. Maybe recycle it later for more response!

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  • 6. Posted by thomas g on Tue, Feb 19, 2008, 8:24 pm PST

    sucked

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  • 7. Posted by taticakuasran on Tue, Feb 19, 2008, 9:05 pm PST

    Great article Dave ! Everyone falls in love and when this happens there is alot of projection of the anima/animus going on. This eventually wears of and the "in love" sensation fades, then you see the real person whom you chose. Alot of people get hitched and then wonder what the hell happened when the normal human being turns into exactly that.....a normal human being. Not some beautiful spiritual entity that no human being could ever keep being. Once the " in love" part is history it is time for really loving the person you chose.....and you have to be able to love yourself before you can love your partner. You will never find happiness in someone else, you have to find that within. Lots of people think if they could just find the perfect mate they would be happy but they will always need something more. We have to stop looking out there and start looking inside our souls. Once there is happiness in your soul the outer world becomes beautiful. # 2...excellent post Whiteoakmiracle. Take care fellow therapist.

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  • 8. Posted by maria r on Thu, Feb 21, 2008, 7:28 am PST

    Hey Boy, Is that you are is that me?! LOL I thought that was you! Haw-ha! Gotta go dance myself into ectascy!

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  • 9. Posted by taticakuasran on Thu, Feb 21, 2008, 11:54 am PST

    Hi Maria.....keep being artistic and creative with your dancing. Let your light shine all around you. People will feel the glow !!!

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  • 10. Posted by irelandh17 on Thu, Feb 28, 2008, 3:31 pm PST

    Well David, I have to say I LOVEIT!! Thi sis sound advice and very true, true love is being true to yourself and your partner accepting you and loving you as you ARE, not as you MIGHT BE. I'm kinda loud and happy and vibrant and i LOVE yoga and my partner is more on the quiet side, does not enjoy yoga, although he doesn't know how many yogic principles i have added to our lives and relationship that have made it better and deeper. I agree compromising so much that you don't feel yourself in it anymore isn't any form of love at all! It is just avoiding confrontation, SILLY! Belive me i have done it, i have also had my feelings and thoughts squashed and that just doesn't work! Meditation is something I have adopted and have given myself some unique moments throughout my days...NICE CALL! Perfect Rumi quote. Remmeber..Got to be true to myself, got to be true to myself...making me the BEST VALENTINE EVER!!!!!

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  • 11. Posted by yrayburn on Sat, Mar 01, 2008, 3:12 pm PST

    loved it! big issue for me.

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  • 12. Posted by yrayburn on Sat, Mar 01, 2008, 3:12 pm PST

    loved it! big issue for me.

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