1. Posted by alex l on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 4:32 am PDT

Patrick, I was one of those emotoinally honest people.Yet I was label as weak, stupid controlling my emotion. They see it as a weakness and stubborn.

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2. Posted by Ricardo C on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 5:42 am PDT

So, only REAL men cry? No, we don't need to cry to be "a real man". A man will shed blood before a tear runs down his cheek. Why is it that some people insist so much on changing us? Why is it that some people insist on portraying this crying as a sign of strength? Why can't you see the strength that it takes to do the opposite? We are not women, and we shouldn't strive to be like them. There is nothing wrong with women, I love them for being how they are, different from us, but neither them nor we should be trying to be more like the other. No, I don't cry easily, and that is not a sign of weakness or of me being less than a real man. #1 is right, the matter of the truth is that people may say all they want about how "real men cry", but in the end, we are seen as weak for it.

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3. Posted by Diana on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 8:28 am PDT

You are absolutely right. Real men should cry.

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4. Posted by amee0007 on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 8:48 am PDT

Everybody can cry. A cry is a outlet for people's emotion. Just women cry more and men cry less or rare. I am a women,I will be very very uncomfortable when men cry especially if he cried for me.I don't want anybobody cry because of me.I will be feel very very sorry and and unconfortable and sad for that.

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5. Posted by amee0007 on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 9:12 am PDT

Do men wants to let women see when they are crying?For me I don't want to let people see why I am crying.If the women is crying for some reasons how the men feel about the women?

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6. Posted by ashish k on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 9:22 am PDT

We all were crying babies irrespective of genders, and one thing we should not forget. Its the first cry, that gives you breath at the time of birth, that means your life. There is an old saying “Don't love, unless you expect pain. Don't cry, unless you expect love.” As we grow old with feelings for others, tears and smiles can do wonders, specially tears, when some one shed them for good cause. There is no harm in expressing what comes to you naturally and what nature has given you. Ash

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7. Posted by Chaz A on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 9:25 am PDT

This isnt a comparison between men and women here, its about emotional output. sure, most guys never cry, and like my father if they do cry its because of death. I didnt cry when my dog died, when I carried him to my friend's truck as he wheezed and foamed his last few minutes of life in total agony. I didnt cry when I spent 3 hours burying him in a backyard full of mostly mountainous clay. Men who cry have good reason to, weaklings who cry every day because they're emo and have no emotional shell or callis to speak of. And yeah, your right also because if you run your mouth about what I've said, I have a nice hatchet that should split your frontal lobes for you and give you a fresh perspective of life once your reason and emotion are segregated by half inch gauge steel. Sometimes, you cant help but break down and sob, or go into a fit of rage and dismay. A real man can control his emotions to a healthy point, only a fool lets his emotions boil and form festering rot inside his heart, because only real men have noble hearts, which means you shed noble tears and bleed noble blood. Beyond that it doesn't matter, your speculating, and given a few hundred miles in their shoes, we'd see who has complacency and who's fault ridden. People label you to try and make the water in your faults turn to ice and crack you open more. Either prove their label wrong, or pay it no mind because you can't slap a price tag on a life's experience, even if your God, because if God was so much better than all of us, then he wouldn't have screwed up the universe or the Demiurge, or made us all so spiteful to our own kind out of supposed "knowledge" its obvious our intellect isn't as supreme as we'd like it to be. The guy who's calling you weak is just a great big gaping mouh of an opinion, and chances are they'd cry if you smashed their mouth for running it. I've seen it before and I'll see it again. I insist only one thing, you pull your head out your arse. For the last millions years man has done everything to survive at the cost of larger mammals, aliens, and mythical epoch but I've got some news for you, your thoughtform on 'real men' might change once you go to war. When your on a battlefield, and you see your own brother's head get blown away, and theres noise and terror like you've never experienced... and you survive. Tell me veterans aren't real men, men who killed and survived in places we'll never go in God forsaken lands. When they cry, because they remember their experience, yeah tell me they're weak, when your soul's the infant in a men's club. Emotionally honest is when your heart gets put on the grand scale of life as the Egyptians saw it, and your heart must weight like a feather, even if your heart has more scars on it than your body does. women either want guys who have bloody gaping hearts or ones locked up in their chest tighter than a safe and wont let i out even if you find the right combonation. You'll sit here, and think of crying over a gf or your family pet or your parents death or for some of us even the death of your own children and friends, even if you mourn somewhere that nobody can see you you've still done the deed. Go to a funeral, and watch every man woma nand child, and you'll probably see less children cry than men because of naivety. And no, dont go on a tangent abou what I said with children, because they're prone to cry over their own frustrations more than other things and this isnt anywhere near the point I'm referencing. Erego, try and digest this once its through because I dont need loads of pointless jargon to get my point across, and unless it flies over your head or slams into the brick wall of as kull you may have, this should make some sense regardless of how you look at it.

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8. Posted by junie_sh on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 9:34 am PDT

Men should cry this shown that they real men. They are with heart and blood when they cried this means that they cried from their truth heart.

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9. Posted by desirebystarlight on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 10:37 am PDT

Personally, I prefer stoic men over crying men. I wouldn't get uncomfortable over seeing another man cry under most circumstances. I would be surprised to see it happen since most men still don't cry in public. What would grate on my last nerve is if I recognized that the man turned out to be at other extreme and more like a drama queen who could never hold it together. There's such a thing as overdoing it in the emotional outlet dept. Speaking as a woman, emotionally exposed women annoy me just as much, if not more, than men who cry. I think many women use tears to manipulate a situation to get what they want, not because they're emotional but because they can. Can't anybody find a better way to communicate your need not being met? Why do people think all of our emotions have to be on public display like a bad broadway play to express our meandering thoughts too? Why doesn't anyone think twice before they speak? Why is honesty considered the best policy? Have we forgotten that sometimes having tact is better. Have we forgotten words can communicate a thought better than a manipulative tear? I think more people could learn to be more stoic these days. Encouraging more people not to gain control of their emotions is not necessarily a step forward in my opinion. Just look at how many people are unraveling at the seams on tv because they have the opportunity to express WHAT THEY FEEL. It's truly frightening what passes for a thought process out there.

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10. Posted by Ricardo C on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 11:39 am PDT

I agree with #9 completely on this. We should encourage people to get a grip on their emotions and use their brains a lot more. Nowadays, it looks like letting your emotions run the show, expressing them without any restraint, and crying about almost any insignificant and frivolous little thing, is the right thing to do. I say no, men need to be men, we need to stop this constant effort on trying to make men emotionally vulnerable.

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11. Posted by Janet on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 12:46 pm PDT

Eleanor Roosevelt a woman of strengh felt showing emotion as a sign of weekness. She lived in the public eye as man in a womans body. She credited her strength to the daily 10 minute private cry. I believe those strong men may follow Eleanor Roosevelt's principal but never admit it.

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12. Posted by marilopez614 on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 1:29 pm PDT

I agree with this to the fullest!

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13. Posted by Princess on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 1:33 pm PDT

I don't believe that it shows a sign of weakness when a man cries. If the moment arises for a good cry, then why not. The last time I checked, I think men are still human, not robots.

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14. Posted by webby on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 3:17 pm PDT

Perhaps a physician out there can help me out but I read somewhere that emotional tears are chemically different than the chopping-an-onion tears. And I recall that the article suggested that emotional crying was like letting air out of the balloon to keep it from bursting. It seems to me that if the only emotion men can express is anger then every emotion is expressed that way - if the only tool you have is a hammer then every problem looks like a nail. If all of the above is true, then maybe a little bit crying could prevent a whole lot of violence?

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15. Posted by dave_washmo on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 3:58 pm PDT

I hadn't cried much in my life until my ex-wife had sprung the news on me that she was in love w/ another man. Although this was a tremedous blow to my ego it also touched me deep inside myself emotionally. Even after all of our years of marriage, I really did love her and still do very much. I cried every day and it still comes back to me every once in a while. I never really showed much emotion when I was married . . . not to her, our kids, my family and friends . . . I truly had a stone heart. It's ironic that it took a tremendous loss like the one I recently experinced to connect w/ my emotions but I have become a much better and happier person because of it. I am more comfortable w/ myself, and more in touch w/ the world around me because I can and do 'FEEL.' I feel happiness, sadness, empathy; pretty much every emotion there is. I know that it's alright for me to cry and I strongly urge everyone to allow themselves the release of TRUE unbridled emotions.

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