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The Art of Intimacy

The Secrets Your Partner is Keeping From You By Dr. Laura Berman - Posted Wed, Jul 09, 2008, 12:59 pm PDT

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  • 1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Jul 09, 2008, 8:17 pm PDT

    women might not be afraid of the big scary spider in the sink. however, I doubt many women can easily tolerate the sensation of crunching one in their fingers. if there's ever a volunteer around that's willing to get the spider or some other insect out of the way, male or female, i'm more than happy to let them have at it. it's the crunching of the bug that makes my skin crawl.

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  • 2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 6:01 am PDT

    Own a Harley, and if you're lucky, get one for her as well. Then when the "night out" night comes you can keep this in mind... "What happens on the road stays on the road"..... Black dress or no dress at all....

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  • 3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 7:21 am PDT

    Good article.. and I'm watching Dr. Laura on Rachael Ray right now talking about single women having sex or not (on first date, or whatever)!! VERY GOOD!! ood to watch... anyone on the West Coast should watch it when it comes on... Love seeing you on TV, Dr. Berman.... cuz I feel like I KNOW you from this blog!! LOLOL

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  • 4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 7:25 am PDT

    Wow! I haven't been on here for a long time and it took me a while to find this blog!! Why does Yahoo make it so hard???... Why can't they just link to the "Expert Blogs" from the front page??..... Anyways, wanted to say "HI" to all my old blogging buddies out there!! I've moved but now I'm all settled now, so I'll stop in once in a while when I can. xoxoxox

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  • 5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 7:31 am PDT

    As a soon-to-be-divorced woman, I clicked on this article looking for more than just fluff "she may not really be afraid of spiders." I was with someone for nearly 20 years before he decided to start letting me in on his little "secrets" like a panty hose fetish (he wears 'em, not me) that eventually grew into his wearing women's underwear and asking me to wear a strap-on in the bedroom. Yes, you think you know someone...

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  • 6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 7:46 am PDT

    Here's the deal, You might have hit your man target but as for the women issues, you were weak. How about taking a swing at your own gender next time! S~

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  • 7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 7:48 am PDT

    This article was very trite and stupid. There are more serious relationship secrets than, not all ladies want babies, and men have body issues too. I mean, anybody capable of not stereotyping the genders knows all this stuff already. It was a waste of my time to read it.

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  • 8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 8:28 am PDT

    Shame on you for propagating the modern mindset that pregnancy is a horror. Stretchmarks and the like are the rites of passage into motherhood. They should be treated with the honor and respect that they deserve. However, I applaud the debunking of the myth that all women want to have babies as soon as possible.

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  • 9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 2:47 pm PDT

    So "Dr" Laura says its quite ok for a girls night out in the little black dress and that "a little jealousy" is a good thing? Sigh! Another stupid academic with no real life experience! Jealousy is destructive, and when it is caused by provocative behaviour like this, it's pointless.

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  • 10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 2:52 pm PDT

    You cannot be trusting and jealous at the same time. My wife is hot in her little black dress. But at the end of the night, it's me she comes home to, the same way it's her I go home to after a guys night out. If you have faith in the relationship and your partner, it won't matter what she wears.

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  • 11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 6:16 pm PDT

    Spot on, leartiste2001, jealousy and trust are polar opposites, with jealousy either being well-founded ("he/she has been unfaithful before" etc) or an insecurity ("How can I trust they won't flirt/cheat/encourage" etc). Truth be told, we like to get compliments. Dress nicely and we feel good.

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  • 12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 6:23 pm PDT

    It's our motive for dressing nice which should be explored. If we don't know why we do things, how is our partner supposed to understand our behaviour? My only advice is that if you really don't trust your partner, get out of the relationship if trust is on your 'must-have' list. :)

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  • 13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 6:54 pm PDT

    Why so harsh poeple??? Those things are probably the most common secrets couples keep. Kinda like the top 5 on the family feud! Everyone has them and has a right to have them. Yours just may be different than those. Mabey you like to watch freaky porn and your partner thinks it's a sin. Now that's a secret worth keeping. I think this articles has more good points than bad ones anyway. I for one got a chuckle from it and am gonna share it with others. Thanks!!

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  • 14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 10:17 pm PDT

    What would you like us to wear on our nights out? An apron and barefeet like in the kitchen.

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  • 15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jul 10, 2008, 11:16 pm PDT

    quack is dead right lance_reeves2000. I have met child psycolgists and breast care nurses with no kids this is just one more in a long line of so called experts with no real life experience in their apparent field of expertise

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