By Dr. Laura Berman Provided by: The Berman Center

The Art of Intimacy

Why He Won't Propose By Dr. Laura Berman - Posted Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 11:02 am PDT

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  • 1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 12:38 pm PDT

    He may not be proposing as my mother used to say "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Men can now have sex just about any time they want from many willing females and can have his clothes folded by the local laundry and his meals ready made in the local supermarket. If he wants a date and fun he calls and then retreats to his own cave where he can do what he wants with no responsibility to another person. This is particularly true of men that have been married and have had children already. With widowers no one is as good as the wife that died and divorces are full of fear that they will fail again.

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  • 2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 12:50 pm PDT

    Actually, male fertility begins to decline in the mid-40s...also, men who father children after age 50 are linked to an increase in various birth defects. Although male sperm is constantly being produced, the DNA templates (the machinery if you will) are less reliable as a man ages and point mutations and deletions increase.

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  • 3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 12:56 pm PDT

    Vast majority of men don't dread wedding day parties and fear asking. Thier ears hear ticking clocks just fine and they can usually aren't too concerned about planning issues. They're worried that in 50% of marriages end in divorce, almost 80% of marriages are ended by the female half, almost 90% of women get full custody of all the kids, and that men are much more likely to take a large financial loss in divorce, compared to women. Throw in stories like this http://www3.whdh.com/news/articles/local/BO80913/ and also this http://www3.whdh.com/news/articles/national/BO80877/ and you can see why sites like this have a lot of readers http://www.nomarriage.com/

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  • 4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 1:40 pm PDT

    The last sentence can be used as another reason as to why men don't propose or want to. Finally, let's see how women can swallow their pride for their "Loved One" and how the fear of rejection can impact a proposal. And this was sent from a Male user.

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  • 5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 3:39 pm PDT

    My man keeps postponing.

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  • 6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 3:39 pm PDT

    My man keeps postponing.

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  • 7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 3:43 pm PDT

    My man keeps postponing.

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  • 8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Jun 20, 2008, 4:17 pm PDT

    I think you forgot to mention that some men still think that they still have a chance with Angelina Jolie (or a look alike)

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  • 9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Jun 21, 2008, 11:05 am PDT

    More of our screwed up American (Western) culture. Did 17 high school girls all make a pact to all get pregnant? http://www.yahoo.com/s/904077 These stories happen every-single-day in our wacked out society. And then people wonder why men are rejecting marriage with so many wackos running around.

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  • 10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Jun 23, 2008, 12:07 am PDT

    I proposed to my fiance over a text message. It was sweet because thats how we got together. And he said YES! I was so happy!

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  • 11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Jun 23, 2008, 1:49 am PDT

    Hmmmm Does age matters? Sometimes he can be too scared to ask his young gf to marry him? :D

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  • 12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Jun 23, 2008, 1:50 am PDT

    Oh...... m he's 18 years older than me by the way but I'm happy whenever we spent time together :D

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  • 13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Jun 23, 2008, 9:59 am PDT

    Q? What is she going to be like afterwards. Men (like myself) can be worried that as soon as the woman has had her day to be a princess and has then recieved her baby, what importance is the man to you then? Some woman (not all) take the kids and run and poison the kids minds against the Dad. Fair?

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  • 14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Jun 23, 2008, 2:35 pm PDT

    Men will marry women who aren't prepared to settle for less. Be a doormat and give him everything he wants without marriage and he won't propose. If you want to get hitched, make it clear and if he isn't ready then he's not right for you - don't date/live with any man for more than two years.

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  • 15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Jun 23, 2008, 8:25 pm PDT

    Since woman and man are equal. therefor, woman can't be treated as woman of an old definition. add into it civil union (where can I find that woman as described in the bibble?)

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