1. Posted by woodnhorse_1 on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 6:37 am PDT

I totally agree I AM 72 yrs. old and my 42 yr old son lives with us. I have trouble hearing certain voice sounds especially if the voices are low or quite & sometimes I feel that they are speaking this way on purpose knowing I can only hear a mumble. However if someone sets a glass down hard or suddenly yells something to someone else I come right out of the chair. A lot of seeminly quite sounds to others sound like loud screaming right in my ears to me. I have found that it is simply impossible to explain to my spouse & son just what it is like to see them speaking to me and me not knowing one word they have said. My mind tries to make sence of the sounds that I hear by comparing it to something I have heard or know, & when I repeat what I think I heard I get laughed at and looked at like I am some kind of weirdo. (THIS IS NOT A FUN THING AT ALL & SELECTIVE HAS NO PART IN IT).

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2. Posted by blondonbottom on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 12:16 pm PDT

I knew that ba$tard could hear me all along!

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3. Posted by carisma on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 7:22 pm PDT

I loved my husband very much,i can sacrifice for him.But i dont know until when...maybe im stupid...because im always trust him..and listen to my heart..but i still pray to GOD.,, that one day morning when he wakes up he will changed everything...but anyway thanks alot even who u are..I know youre right.but im still waiting that one day,i can have a big and happy family forever..

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4. Posted by bigbird2002@verizon.net on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 9:27 pm PDT

Being "all ears" is definitely a good tip for all couples in general. I've dealt with a hearing loss my whole life, and at times I've been told that I only hear what I want to hear. This may be true to an extent. Although it is frustrating not being being able to hear your partner, what is really important in a relationship is how you react to one another. What happens to you shouln't be the issue.

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5. Posted by bigbird2002@verizon.net on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 9:29 pm PDT

Being "all ears" is definitely a good tip for all couples in general. I've dealt with a hearing loss my whole life, and at times I've been told that I only hear what I want to hear. This may be true to an extent. Although it is frustrating not being being able to hear your partner, what is really important in a relationship is how you react to one another. What happens to you shouln't be the issue.

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6. Posted by bigbird2002@verizon.net on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 9:32 pm PDT

Being "all ears" is definitely a good tip for all couples in general. I've dealt with a hearing loss my whole life, and at times I've been told that I only hear what I want to hear. This may be true to an extent. Although it is frustrating not being being able to hear your partner, what is really important in a relationship is how you react to one another. What happens to you shouln't be the issue.

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7. Posted by bigbird2002@verizon.net on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 9:33 pm PDT

Being "all ears" is definitely a good tip for all couples in general. I've dealt with a hearing loss my whole life, and at times I've been told that I only hear what I want to hear. This may be true to an extent. Although it is frustrating not being being able to hear your partner, what is really important in a relationship is how you react to one another. What happens to you shouln't be the issue.

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8. Posted by ellieron1 on Fri, Apr 25, 2008, 9:54 pm PDT

could hearing loss also make a man ignore you, not have conversations, watch TV all day and tune you out?

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9. Posted by traceofanasazi on Sat, Apr 26, 2008, 6:37 pm PDT

Ahhh....the good old selective hearing. That is a trait that can be mastered by some people...lol. Not being able to hear, see, or any other of the things that the majority of the people tend to take for granted till it suddenly is taken from them can indeed cause a person some problems. One thing I have noticed is that a person who loses one of their senses like hearing or seeing always makes up for it with the rest of their senses.The rest of your senses get stronger when you lose one to make up the difference. Kind of a way of balancing things out. Ok.....Not trying to make fun of people who can't hear, so no harm intended with this joke........... A couple who were both deaf were having some communication difficulties in the bedroom when it came to having sex. When the lights were out they couldn't sign eachother very well. The wife had an idea on how her husband could tell her if he wanted to have sex with her. She told her husband to squeeze her left breast twice if he wanted to have sex with her and to squeeze the right one only once if he didn't feel like it. He said that was a great idea and told his wife he had a plan figured out for her to let him know if she wanted to have sex with him or not. He told her to pull on his pecker one time if she wanted to have sex and to pull on it 1000 times if she didn't feel like having sex.......LOL !!!

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10. Posted by lesliejaakola on Sun, Apr 27, 2008, 7:23 am PDT

I never really thought of it,but yes it can strain a relationship.My husband suffers from hearing loss.Sometimes I repeat myself not knowing if he heard me or not.That can cause problems too,he feels like I'm nagging him.Thank you,this was very helpful.

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11. Posted by Betty M on Mon, Apr 28, 2008, 12:12 pm PDT

Having lived with a husband and two children all with hearing loss, a sense of humor is about the only thing that will get you past talking in triplicate.

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12. Posted by Betty M on Mon, Apr 28, 2008, 12:12 pm PDT

Having lived with a husband and two children all with hearing loss, a sense of humor is about the only thing that will get you past talking in triplicate.

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13. Posted by dignfrgold on Mon, Apr 28, 2008, 6:14 pm PDT

#10 TAZ!!!!! HHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAA!! That was good!!! LOL!!! The first thing I thought of when I saw this article was....It would be a dream come true for the man not to hear his clucking chicken wife flapping her jaw all day long. That's why TV Ears were invented, TO SAVE MARRIAGES!! LOL! Your joke made my day...take care, coco. : ) : )

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14. Posted by charlotte g on Mon, Apr 28, 2008, 6:27 pm PDT

`that's funny but true, this past weekend I asked my husband to please check the fluid levels on my vehicle.as i traveled to work this morning I wondered if he had done as I requested..so,then I got to this website about hearing. and I read it aloud to him and then I asked him by the way, did you check my car ?? he replied 'oh I forgot " even though he did not forget to check his own.......yup! selective hearing lol

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15. Posted by chesscoach51 on Tue, Apr 29, 2008, 4:27 am PDT

this reminds me of the very often forgotten problem of having an English as a Second Language speaker in a relationship. Same thing. If there is no mutual help and understanding, it can be really detrimental to the marriage. My two cent: To the ESL spouse: enrol in English courses and keep at them until you FEEL proficient. To the native English speaker spouse: be patient, build up your spouse's skills, become his/her mentor!

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