Crossing the Line: Inappropriate Relationships By Dr. Laura Berman - Posted Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 2:31 am PST

1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 4:33 am PST

I don't have a problem with my wife finding other men attractive. Flirting with them crosses the line for me.

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 6:08 am PST

love the article. this is all very true.

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 6:28 am PST

#1... hotty, I'm opposite of you!!! I don't mind my man flirting with other women... but i don't want him finding them attractive!! (he better tell me I'm the hottest woman in the room!!) LOLOL

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 6:33 am PST

Actually, I'm pretty easy going about flirting.. cuz I do my share of harmless flirting.. and I think it goes too far if you're firting with "intent" to do something... Definitely buying a woman a drink at a bar would irritate me!! LOL... and being online with someone would be inappropriate... unless it was within a group setting.. like a blog.. that wouldn't bother me.. (It's if they took it one-on-one that I would be bothered!!.. that's like going into the other room with a person at a party!!)

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 6:45 am PST

For me, as long as you don't plan to meet the person you're flirting with (not having cyber sex eeeww) in the internet, it doen't fall into the category of "crossing the line."

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:06 am PST

Nothings wrong with porn in my opinion.

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:06 am PST

#5... Hey Diviine.. How's it going???.. we all have our friends that we talk to online, but i try not to get into "flirting" with them... I trust myself and I know that I have no intentions of doing anything with anyone.. But I have known people who are in a couple and have run off with someone they met online... (one woman left her husband for 6 days after writing him a note saying she found the "love of her life" and then came back!! LOLOL I don't think I would take my partner back if he could fall for someone else that easily!!!)

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:13 am PST

Very well said. I have been forced by my 24 year failed marriage to cross the line due to the fact that he was holding a a complete second relationship with another woman. Please no matter what do not cross the line or if you wish to cross the line then get a divorce first or end your current relationship.

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:20 am PST

Well at least there is a new topic. This is very interesting indeed. What this is really bring up is the old green eyed monster called jealousy. Crossing the line in a committed relationship is dangerous. Some people don't mind if there is a little innocent flirting. I guess we all remember the infamous scene in Fatal Attraction where the blonde says, "I don't like to be ignored". There are plenty of psychos out there, male and female. It can start out as an innocent flirtation and turn into phone calls, stalking your spouse down etc. Maybe if a husband or wife crosses the line they will get what they deserve. While buying drinks for someone else seems polite, I've seen the "other person" turn this into a marraige proposal. That is the problem. Once in a while all people flirt in front of their spouse or partner. This needs to be discussed before these problems arise. I guess you don't really know someone that well until you are together for a number of years. It seems like cheating etc. sets in after the couple becomes "too" familiar with each other. Anyway, it is a good topic but if couples become jealous about flirting with the waiter/waitress what kind of future will they have?

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:26 am PST

people cant help finding other people attractive, that's just part of being human---but if my bf were to try to dance up on other girls, or text them and email them without my knowledge, it would be over!!!!

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:31 am PST

#7 - Hey GTG, how are you? I'm still awake trying to finish giftwrapping for my annual volunteer workk for the orphans, but I'm keeping my eyes on the computer trying to read the comments while wrapping hehehe. I'm curious about the couplle you mentioned....give me a clue pls..... LOL!!! If you won't tell me, I'll ask someone else....just kidding. You know, we are all just having fun flirting online but I don't think there's harm into it. We are just having fun......

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:37 am PST

I agree #8 get a divorce first. The people who carry on a second relationship for years have problems. I'm sorry to hear you had to suffer through that situation. As long as you are not married I guess its O.K. It seems like the modern world says its O.K. to have several partners at the same time. Some married people NEVER find out their spouse has a secret lover, I guess that's why they call it an affair:)

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:42 am PST

Now, this is a topic I am an expert on!

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:43 am PST

The only inappropriate relationships are with an animal or a child. What consenting adults do together is always alright!

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:43 am PST

Is it infidelity if the thoughts are not acted upon? Meaning, if it's only in the mind, is it okay?,,,You are not crossing the line? Okay, I'm done with my giftwrapping....goodnight everyone....

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