16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:50 am PST

# 14- Hi BOB. That's a very intriguing sentence, what consenting adults do together is always right. I'll mull it over before sleeping..... goodnight

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:51 am PST

Flirting online is harmless unless you are dumb enough to give your address, #, last name etc. Then you could be in for some trouble. Yes blond I agree as long as they aren't married to someone else.

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 7:51 am PST

Ha! Those sound like a lot of peoples insecurities to me. Cyber-flirting?!? Are you kidding? What can a computer do? I am happily married, have been for some time and my hubby and I both agree on certain things; first, humans get bored. Go ahead a pretend that, that guy looking at you doesn't raise your confidence, or act like having that girl apporach you does absolutely nothing for your male ego. Let it! Bat your eyes, giggle away. But that's where it stops, you do not exchange numbers, you do not lie about being manogomously committed, period. My husband and I joke about it all the time. I am attractive (I know that sounds cocky, but there is a difference to knowing where you stand socially and being cocky.) I get male attention pretty much everyday. But there is where the trust comes in!!!! As far as commenting on how someone else looks, why not? Pay attention to what your partner says, likes and dislikes. Think about it, you have comitted yourself for life to this person. Change it up, be it your look, style, hair, whatever. Keep them happy, help them keep you happy. Forget political correctness. If you can't speak your heart and mind to the person you'll be with forever, when will you really be yourself? If a passing glance is enough to make you cheat on your loving spouce, then gues what...You are weak and you don't know or maybe don't care how good you've got it at home. Your loss. Like dieting and drinking and everything else in life, moderation is the key. Knowing where the line is and knowing your own weaknesses. Be aware and stop using temptation as a crutch.

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 8:13 am PST

People should stop being so sensative and start living where not promised tomarro its a control issue

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 8:26 am PST

Mrs. Green, Good luck changing your hair, your nails, and your superficial appearance for the 30 to 50 years you may be married. This is assuming you are in your late 20's or early 30's. "To keep him happy", you sound like an accident waiting to happen. I'm sure you are good looking, thats great. I agree you can't let someone elses insecurity hold you back. You said your husband agrees with you that people get bored. I guess you'll find out in a few years after you have a baby and your sexy flat belly gets a little flabby or you have an operation and can't "keep him happy" for a few weeks. Welcome to the real world where time waits for no one. Sounds like "paying attention" to your partner is going to set you up for being a victim of low self esteem later in life. Its fine to be good looking or beautiful in life but a lifelong committment is alot more about your mind than your body.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 8:53 am PST

I felt the article wsa a bit outdated; Victorian.

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 9:07 am PST

True, Dolphin we live in a very visually stimulating world. I love to look at physical beauty. We would have to be blind not to look at beautiful eyes, hair, skin, bodies etc. People love to flirt, some more than others. Our society loves porn, flashy cars, slick movies, video games. Although the point is crossing the line. Should you stare at someones breasts just because they are beautiful? Should women drool over good looking blonde surfers on the beach? Well why not? I guess the point of the article is not in front of your partner. So behind their back is O.K. I'm not sure if the Doc thought this through.

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 9:44 am PST

We had sexual affairs. Then came emotional affairs and now Flirting affairs. Crossing the line is that moment when you would feel ashamed if your partner found out. Is flirting cheating? Well I put this question to you... Would you act upon a flirtation? If a man said to you that you were sexy or very attractive would you be anticipating the next time you saw him to here something else or would you thank him for the comments and walk away? If you look forward to next time you see him to get a compliment or you start returning compliments, Then you are headed for trouble.

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 10:02 am PST

Oh yes...it's informative enough,revealing what l never knew...and now l know after reading . So keep me posted !

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 10:08 am PST

#20.. Juliet, you make a lot of assumptions!!! #18 said she's married and she see's nothing wrong with lighthearted flirting and that she uses what her husband finds attractive to her advantage!! Nothing wrong with any that..!!! And I see nothing in her comment that indicates she will have "low self esteem later in life".. or that her husband would leave her if she has an operation... or a baby... (and how do you know she hasn't already had a baby or an operation??? LOL) Hey, it sounds to me as if she already knows about "life long commitments"... cuz she's in one!!!

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 10:13 am PST

OK.. Dirty dancing with another person!! LOLOL.. Yeah, I would consider that crossing the line... I'd be very PO'd if my partner pulled that one!! LOLOL

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 10:18 am PST

DG.. It's a woman who I worked with that left her husband for 6 days!! No one you know.. I don't think... (especially considering you're halfway around the world from me!! LOLOL) Have fun getting ready for the holidays.. and I know the kids at the orphanage will love whatever you do.... We don't have many (or any) orphanages here in the USA any more.. that I know of!! At least in our state there are none.. Children are now put in foster homes... (but I'm not sure if that's always a good idea.. having people take in kids for money.. still, it beats an institution any day!!!)

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 10:32 am PST

This article seems very true, if you don't show affection to your significant other the relationship goes sour, because there is no link or trust bonded between the two partners in the relationship.

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 11:10 am PST

I only meant she was focusing on her husband. Read her comments, anyway if you need to count on your hair and nails to keep your husband, you're in big trouble. Sometimes the person who is doing the flirting causes the other partner to actually cheat on them out of jealousy. Trust is important, if a partner is constantly flirting or paying attention to someone else it would be annoying. Many people play games and get burned in the end. If you have a beautiful wife or good looking husband why would you play with fire? Too much flirting ( with no serious intention) can make the one doing the flirting look like a jerk. After rereading the last graph of the article I see the Dr. says to go buy some roses for your spouse. That is really sweet. I don't think anybody is going to start a wild affair after smiling and winking at a grocery store clerk. Although since there aren't many new jobs in America I guess that is where young people meet now.

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 28, 2007, 11:32 am PST

I agree 100%.My husband, who travels alot more than he is at home, got 2 texts on thanksgiving & promptly deleted them& then attacked me for not trusting him!If they were nothing then why would he bring it up?!I had no idea that hehad even been texted.Why on earth did he verbally attack me?The red lights are up & I'm seriously thinking of divorce.....

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