1. Posted by elmie t on Tue, Nov 06, 2007, 8:57 pm PST

Yes... always use protection no matter what. you never know what kind of infection / disease came it...

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2. Posted by karthik.aithal on Tue, Nov 06, 2007, 9:31 pm PST

good

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3. Posted by cheron3106 on Tue, Nov 06, 2007, 10:25 pm PST

IT'S ALL OF THE TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!

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4. Posted by hottyinabusinesssuit on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 3:34 am PST

That's it I'm going on the pill! :-) Just kididng, so what's a guy to do. Don't use it any more?

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5. Posted by jbic2005 on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 3:51 am PST

why do you think that it is always the man cheating, I find this to be really offensive,and think that you should try stating the facts that women are just as bad as men when it comes to keeping their pants on

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6. Posted by irmela967 on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 4:19 am PST

shouldn't it be vagina and penis instead of "down there"

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7. Posted by whirlingwhitewind on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 5:59 am PST

A very important piece that was left out: get yourself tested! If you have a new partner, you should both get tested. Don't just believe they are "clean" and don't assume that you are. You may have been monogamous, but your previous partner may not have been, or you may have used a condom all the time, but as the doc said, they won't protect against certain things. And then there's oral, and otherwise - certain things can be passed on from sexual secretions to ANYWHERE there is a break in the skin, like a hangnail or papercut on a finger. Think about it. Scarey? Perhaps. But is your health, or even your life, worth the gamble? Especially if you have children! If a new partner does not have enough respect and common decency to get tested for themselves and your sake, do you really want to be intimate with them? Going to get tested together can be made into a special date, and is a great way to lay down a foundation of mutual trust and respect!

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8. Posted by Robert G on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 6:08 am PST

I agree with casual sex being a hurting experience. I think that in most cases, people want a loving relationship. So what happens is one partner is seduced to have casual sex with the intent that it will enhance their chance of being in a loving or married relationship. After casual intimacy, one partner may be hurting especially if that one or few night stand partner walks away. The rejection is damaging and people try and try again until they settle for less than a loving relationship and sometimes with a less than perfect; really risky person. Even the person that walks away from a one night stand is less than true to themselves and suffers too! They may constantly be looking for a score; they don't feel whole and may have a low self esteem of; control, fear of rejection, fear of having a disease and spiritual emptyness. I agree with you and think the process of sex should be shelved until a real commitment is made. If it is meant to be your partner will wait.

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9. Posted by chrissy_snow84 on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 7:12 am PST

#6 I think it is obvious to people who can read that men were referred to as cheating in this article because that is what the study found: 1 in 10 MEN have concurrent seuxal relationships. i wish stormi would come back and put all of you in your place!!! Stormi, if you're reading this, i miss you!

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10. Posted by Shabir on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 7:57 am PST

This is very helpful.

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11. Posted by gilteeegirl on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 8:32 am PST

When I was in my 20s my mother once told me about the pyramid effect... when we were talking about sexual diseases. She said "Say you have had 3 partners (she was being kind.. as mothers often are!! LOL).. and your partner has had 3 partners.. and each of them had 3 partners.. and each of those 3 had 3 partners.. etc, etc, etc.. you're having sex with all of those people!! and the chances of catching something from ONE of them gets greater and greater!!!".... I couldn't keep up with her!! ...THAT scared me half to death... If you look at it that way, we are having sex with EVERYONE!!! It never ends.. and it actually gets worse the OLDER we get because we have had sex with MORE partners (do the math.. You won't believe it!!!)

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12. Posted by gilteeegirl on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 8:37 am PST

We do have to be careful... but the chances of finding our "perfect partner" the very first time are very slim!!! (I know I'm glad I'm NOT with the first guy I had sex with! LOLOL) And I would never choose a life partner without having sex with him first!!

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13. Posted by howihearislonely on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 10:39 am PST

YOU ROCK! I LOVE THIS ARTICLE...PEOPLE NEED TO THINK.

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14. Posted by gilteeegirl on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 11:00 am PST

#9.. Robert G.. You are right.. and I don't often think of men getting hurt with casual sex, but anyone can get hurt emotionally when they have more feelings about the relationship than their partner has.

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15. Posted by Desiree P on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 12:04 pm PST

Tell us something we don't know. Are you a doctor cause we learned all that in the fifth grade.

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