16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 13, 2007, 12:19 pm PDT

My partner and I have what we call the truth box. In the truth box you can say whatever you feel (with no hostility and insults). As a couple we then discuss whatever the issue is and work it out. Also there are no repercussions afterwards. No throwing it up in their face afterward or complaining about it.Once it's worked out and the box is closed it stays there. the truth box is portable and high tec(ie:blogs) if necessary. This way things that could cause blow ups are discussed and defused before a fight becomes the result.

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 13, 2007, 6:38 pm PDT

Wow!! #18, fuidlyunsure... you sure have your fights planned out and very well "calculated"!! Although I'm sure you're a worthy opponent, it's the game of LOVE we're talking about... I would hate to think my partner was saving some "snake venom" for a future fight!! LOL..... I do agree with you that many fights are not "worthy of the effort"... but I think hanging onto, or saving up ammunition to use as power over your partner is kind of underhanded... (Maybe you're talking about "competition" in general... like at work.... and then, I think it's good advice... but not when fighting with someone you love!!!!)

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 13, 2007, 6:56 pm PDT

#17.. I don't think I would have the patience enough to wait for my partner to read my complaint!!.. I'd have to blurt it out, or tell him to "Look in the Box.. NOW!!" LOLOL But it is a good way of dealing with some problems.

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 13, 2007, 7:53 pm PDT

we never fight were just so in love . we might have a little spat over my ex or the kids . but we talk always and are best freinds . she was the first girl i ever kissed when i was 6 shewas 8 . we just found each other 4 months ago . we just found each other 4 months ago. we fell in love so quick. we have so much in common,

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 13, 2007, 7:55 pm PDT

I don't get it...who wants to argue? I would do anything not to...paleeze...there has to be a sex topic somewhere on here...the authors are dropping like flys.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 13, 2007, 9:31 pm PDT

i will try this stuff, we all need to practice makin' love, not war,(i saw this as-a cartoon bit in mad magazine once) t.y. m.e.

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 6:29 am PDT

well am a teen ager between 16 and 17yr old.and i broke ma boys trust. i hav hurted him veri badli plz tel mi how to get him back. how to gain hiz trust az before. ??? will hi trust mi??? hiz a virgo of 19 yr old (septembr 22)teen ager. he still loves mi a lot. plz please i reali dont wana loose him. i reali love him n i reali want him back.

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 7:35 am PDT

do you really think this is true ,or are you getting this from own personal experience.generalization happens way to often . people are indiviuals,that what make us unique . respectfully yours JOHNNY

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 8:27 am PDT

Good Morning my blogggin friends (you know who you all are)...I miss you!!!!....The only kind of fighting that should be going on between couples is what sexual fantasy should we play next!!!...LOLOL!!!:)))COMMUNICATION is the key!!!....Okay,...seriously, what works for me is when my boyfriend and I do argue, I just show him my breasts and he goes speechless and it stops the thought process right there!!!LOLOL...calms him down enough so we can talk!!!...my advice??...divert his attention!!!..works everytime!!..only problem is I have to be careful because sometimes he will pick a fight just so I will show him my breasts!!!...LOLOL.....Hardi

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 8:29 am PDT

Have a good day everyone and be well!!!....:):)....luv Hardi..

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 10:39 am PDT

Terrible advice for people involved with abusers, telling abusers what caused pain only gives them more power to continue hurting. Get real and get away to protect yourself from more of the same. Been there done that and it doesn't work.

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 11:53 am PDT

#28 being with an abusive partner is a totally different category. I think this advice is good for the people who if they don't change their behavior, they may become abusive - and that can happen. I read an earlier argument that the making up makes the fight worth it - that is really sick, if you need to fight to get your passions going I think you should get some therapy. My fiance and I don't argue like that, I guess we're both very sensitive and so we treat each other tenderly even when we disagree. It would break my heart if he treated me that way.

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 12:37 pm PDT

I used to think that I was fighting fair with my husband only to find out that I wasn't. I would hold back and then I would really come back in a forceful way. Now, I believe that is one of the main reasons that we are in the process of getting a divorce of which I do not want. I suggested we go to a marriage counselor and he said he's not paying for that, well, instead we are now paying crazy amounts on attorneys. By the way, for the most part we still do talk in a civil way and not a mean way. Yes, I still do love him. So, if you want your partner and you not to argue as much, talk, talk, talk. It could cost you your relatinship

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 12:47 pm PDT

Arguing without laughing at what the arguement was about only leads to deterioration of the relationship.Yes! the key words,RELATIONSHIP!Without it,it is usually one sided and therefore is no longer what the true original intent probably was.It's hard to grow individually either being pulled or pulling for the team.Two are usually stonger than one and one cannot do it alone.Single means alone,so why be alone if you are supposedly in a relationship.A power struggle is not worth it.

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Oct 14, 2007, 1:07 pm PDT

Very helpful article that applies to non-romantic (ie: parent-child relations), too.

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