1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Oct 05, 2007, 8:08 pm PDT

****Cohabitating, not co-dependent.**** Couldn't agree more...

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Oct 05, 2007, 8:57 pm PDT

First, I would like to say, I understand co-habitating and why people do it. To be honest, why would a man living with his girlfriend have any incentive to get married?Now that your living together you have the best of both worlds, your freedom and a partner in bed. What more could you ask for? If you don't get along, no attorney's involved! It's a perfect world....(for the man). What most men don't understand, is when a women meets you for the first time, in about the first 30 seconds, she has already decided if she wants to marry you and have your children!LOL! For the man, he just wants to know if she can open a beer on her own!LOL!

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Oct 05, 2007, 9:40 pm PDT

I am considering asking my signifignt other to move in since he is here most of the time anyway. I am intersted in finding a husband again, but he has said that he doesn't want to get married again. I do love this man but am unsure of where to draw the line. I have been divorced for 10 years am and tired of being alone. any advice would be appreciated, as i feel pretty confused right now.

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Oct 05, 2007, 11:30 pm PDT

I agree 1/2 and 1/2, I just wanted to give an advice to teel_shelly, I would rather prefer to be not married again with someone that not wanting to. Hang in there and enjoy your own space, taking time thinking about what are you going to do next for tomorow rather than thinking of the future with a present of a husband. The more time you put in on sorting out for what you have not done for your life will help you live happy and strong, then you will feel much stronger yourself and you won't need a man for happiness but you will make your own happiness. Finding spare time to do things you have never tried to do before, or do things that you used to love doing it. Exercise-yoga,cardio, read a health magazine, layback watch again your most favorite movie, or tried watching a movie you used to hate. By doing so I think you will get connect to yourself, who you used to be and who you used to not be. Just a bit of a tip of advice of my own, hope it could help.

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 1:05 am PDT

The bedrock of matrimonial relationship is mutual respect and trust and everything nice will follow. Thank you.

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 4:56 am PDT

In response to #3. Think hard before you take that step. I was divorced for 21 years, before I married #2. Wished now I hadn't. Don't co-habitate or marry just because of lonliness. You can be in a room full of people and still feel alone.

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 5:11 am PDT

The only reason to marry or live with someone is because you can't live without them, not just because you can live with them. I understand being lonely but tmcarr2006 is absolutely correct about being alone in a room full of people. To me, if you are confused then having him move in with you isn't going to help. I have been divorced 18 years and while I am alone a lot, I am not ever lonely. Good luck to you...

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 6:04 am PDT

Oh, Dr. B, soooo true when you say sometimes it's best to start together in a whole new place rather than one moving into another's home (if possible). In my relationships, everything has always happened at MY house... because I love my house and it's where I'm most comfortable... but I know that is not fair!! (still I do it... LOL) A couple should definitely try to start fresh and move into a "mutual place" together so that no one feels like an intruder. Great advice... Maybe some day I will get out of my comfort zone and leave this place... but not this year!! LOL

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 6:51 am PDT

This advice is well and good, but what about a man with a large house who doesn't wish to visit the career woman with a stylish apt. in the city? Can there be some room for growth when he stays in filth in his country hovel?

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 8:18 am PDT

Yeah, who doesn't know that common sense advice. But what happens when you find yourself living with someone who is in their own world entirely, like having bipolar disease and being in denial about it? Now, I need money to escape this insanity that he finds perfectly normal.

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 10:15 am PDT

#8 That also caught my eye in the article and it did seem like a smart thing for a couple to do.....But I'm like you, Ha!!!! I like my house and the fact that it is mine, LOL!!! I think co habitating is a good thing because you can find out if you can live with each other. I don't think very many couples get married before they live together for a while to see if they can actually live with eachother. Marriage has become the next step and is supposed to be the way of saying you want this want this person for the rest of your life. Too bad that has changed so much and the rate of divorce is so high.People think they should get an award if they stayed married to the same person for "x" amount of years, LOL!!! I say we should all step back and look at the big picture here. See how intimate relationships have evolved over the years. Change happens, sometimes for the better, sometimes not.This is a collective thing going on here. Everyone is doing it. I can't think of one person now who has married someone they never lived with. It has become extinct. If you got married to someone you never lived with you are an endangered species now days.

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 2:37 pm PDT

I really thought this article was great and was on track and right on.

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 3:08 pm PDT

forget living together

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 3:14 pm PDT

I know that a lot of you guys will get hooked if the sex is good and be weak.. Stick to your guns man...no matter how good the sex is it's not worth the nagging, etc etc

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Oct 06, 2007, 6:58 pm PDT

I agree to cohabitate before marriage. If I had lived with husband #1 first there would of never been a marriage. Why? because when I married him I became his mother all over again. Now before I married husband #2 we lived together first I am glad I did we have a wonderful marriage but after our relationship went any farther than the word Marriage I was blunt with him and told him there will be no wedding bells unless I am sure I wasn't taking the "maid" role all over again and he agreed.

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