Dirty talk is flirty talk. It fans the flames of desire and gets your deepest wishes across in a way that's fun, not serious.

A lot of couples feel silly about talking dirty. They think it's unnatural or that they have to get really raunchy to do it right. In reality, dirty talk is like any other seduction: doing it with your own flair makes it come off right. Talking dirty to your partner doesn't mean you have to become someone you're not...unless that's exactly what you want to do!

Say what you feel:

"I just love it when you _____"

Say what you want:

"I want you to ____ my ____"

Say what s/he does to you:

"I'm so hot that I've started ____"

"Right now I'm going to stroke/suck/kiss your ____"


Don't limit dirty talk to in-person moments. You can warm yourself up by talking dirty over the telephone or via email. No matter how you do it, talking dirty is especially good for your sex life. You amp up your arousal by talking about the taboo and you learn more about what turns you on. Get talking!

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