466. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Dec 14, 2008, 6:07 am PST

In response to troll_to_troll's comment about it not being cheating unless there was actual intercourse, I fell sorry for any poor unfortunate person who has ever had a relationship with you. Cheating isn't just about intercourse, it's about breaking the level of trust & love that other person gave to you. There are lots of ways to do that besides actual intercourse. If there is a question in your relationship about a partner's feelings for you, there is always a way to solve a problem without being unfaithful, if you really try. If you feel that's not possible then you're not meant to be with them any longer in the first place, and sooner or later you will have to realize it and come to terms with that. If you cheat you are an irresponsible person.

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467. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jan 01, 2009, 6:52 pm PST

I WAS A WIFE OF AN UNFAITHFUL HUSBAND. THE FIRST TIME HE WAS I FORGAVE HIM AND TOLD HIM IF HE EVER CHEATED AGAIN I DIDN'T WANT HIM BACK. IT IS TRUE THAT FOR A MARRIAGE TO SURVIVE, BOTH PARTNERS MUST BE HONEST AND FORGET THE PAST MISTAKE. BUT TRUST IS HARD TO GAIN BACK WHEN THE UNFAITHFUL ONE IS NOT BEING TRUTHFUL ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND LOVE FOR HIS MATE.

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468. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Feb 08, 2009, 6:59 am PST

Dear Cherbutal, I declare that your version of events is a lie to make you seem better and less culpable than you really are.

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469. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Aug 12, 2009, 2:16 am PDT

Interesting reading all the posts on this one. I dont ususally get into these sites but a link brought me here. Being a man of some 40+ years i think i have seen and heard most reasons for cheating. I think it boils down to 3. bad relationship by both parties, not putting any effort into it - it takes two to make things last- always a chance to rebuild what was there before chasing the excitment of days gone by - dull life feeling lonely no excitement build and bond together support each other. make time for each other even when you have the kids. Never being able to stick to one person - this one will never work i have met many men and some women who love the chase and cannot let it go so always fall back to the flirting and sooner or later the cheating as if you look for it it you will find it. Usually seeking attention and can never get enough of it. If its offered they cant say no. I have been married for 20 years have beautiful kids and my soul mate is my wife ive said on many occasions by todays standards im extremley lucky and wish more couples would look at both points of view because you can have a happy long term relationship my love for my wife is so deep now that it could never change. It grows bigger and stronger every day. The hard times have made us what we are today so good luck and if it happens to you think long and hard as to why and when you know that reason then its time to decide if you can go on or not.

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