16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 8:43 am PST

ok- Lady! Since we been on a song thing lately with the blogs....like your so vain,lol(oh and i heard that song yesterday, hilarious)anyway, here is one on a movie,and old movie that is my favorite(because me and my siste is always quoting lines, having fun) Guess it.....There he goes, he going away, with each step he takes..brings heartache my way..Oh if I hatin' cheated and if I hatin' lied...I'd be the one, walking by his side, Well I love Him still and i guess it shows ..the way that I feel..as there he goes.( ok that was hard to type easier to sing, lol) Its a loretta lynn song from ......name this movie......lol

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 8:44 am PST

Here is another line from the movie...I aint gona never get use to you gettin' on me sweatin' like an old pig.lol That was there honey moon, lol. Now thats bad. lol:)

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 1:40 pm PST

I would suggest this website, it helped me a lot when we almost crashed & burned. www.Marriagebuilders.com, lots of others in the discussion area. I spent hours there at the time. Also get the book, His needs, Her needs suggested at the site.

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 1:40 pm PST

I would suggest this website, it helped me a lot when we almost crashed & burned. www.Marriagebuilders.com, lots of others in the discussion area. I spent hours there at the time. Also get the book, His needs, Her needs suggested at the site.

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 2:25 pm PST

#18., my grace... your mother's and father's situation must have been hard for you and I can see why you would have trust issues... even with yourself... but remember, you are not your parents, and history does not have to repeat itself. I'm glad you've realized that being jealous is not a healthy way to live, either. Good luck.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 2:46 pm PST

I'm gonna be careful on this one... I think it is one of those "hot issues" that could get some people pretty upset... but cheating can be an indication that there's an inbalance in the relationship and doesn't always mean he or she is a dirty rotten scoundral. There are many instances where couples are so much more closer after it happens because they get to really talk and get in touch with what they truelyt need from each other. (and it isn't always sex!!)

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 5:51 pm PST

Cheating no only affects the couple primarily, but also the children. Children sense things much more than some people realize. My father cheated on my mother and towards the end of their marriage, I remember how anxious he was to "get rid of us" so he could be with his paramour. Of course the story didn't end there for him.

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Nov 18, 2006, 6:13 pm PST

gilteeegirl-your right, history will not repeat itself. Things might past down for generations until finally someone stands up and say ENOUGH it stops with me. We change and make a difference for our children and our childrens children. My changes are for my child or children and in hopes that I can instill something in them that is eternal and will make a difference in their life. Well dont think I will have any more children , gettin' to old for that. lol. I don't have a problem with trust until you break that trust. I believe in giving everybody a fair chance and not allowing past hurts or situations to deter you in any future decisions. Ok got to try and get some sleep, I've been going to bed early and now that I need to, it wont happen, lol. Good night!

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 6:20 am PST

Ouch!!!

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 10:12 am PST

#27...afac.. you are soooo right! Children are affected by everything. Even newborn babies can feel their mother's pain without even having an understanding of words and their meanings.

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 10:25 am PST

Re #26.. In no way did I mean to say that cheating is a good way to "get closer"... LOL! It was meant to reassure some who have been cheated on that it's not always the end of the world. One of my very good friends had an affair and now that everything is said and done she and her husband are closer and more understanding of each other than I have ever seen them!! I'm sure the marriage counselling and couples therapy helped immensely... something they desparately could have used BEFORE the affair!! (that's what I meant about an imbalance in the relationship causing some affairs.)

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 11:43 am PST

I think cheaters are blind to the fact that people can see right through them. Or they just don't care if they hurt someone. They are selfish in their behavior and end up causing alot of problems for themselves and anyone who is attached to them.

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 1:14 pm PST

RE #33, Scootgadke, I found this out,it is so true. Blind, totally blind. Those endorphins that kick when they are around the "new" love, its like high school love. In the book His needs, her needs, it talks about a full 90 days of total absense to break that new found bond with the other afairee. I found this so true w/ my WF. She had a relapse about 45 days into it, and had to start over. We were in a odd sitsuation where it was almost unavoidalbe that we would run across Mr otherguy. Plus he called once!! But that was 5 yrs ago now, and things are good.

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 1:14 pm PST

RE #33, Scootgadke, I found this out,it is so true. Blind, totally blind. Those endorphins that kick when they are around the "new" love, its like high school love. In the book His needs, her needs, it talks about a full 90 days of total absense to break that new found bond with the other afairee. I found this so true w/ my WF. She had a relapse about 45 days into it, and had to start over. We were in a odd sitsuation where it was almost unavoidalbe that we would run across Mr otherguy. Plus he called once!! But that was 5 yrs ago now, and things are good.

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Nov 19, 2006, 2:56 pm PST

jnvc, sorry to hear about the bad times, but glad to hear things are good now. A relapse? Now I've heard it all. I mean OMG !!! It's a wonder your not in prison right now. You could give lessons in emotional control. Or teach an anger management class or something. LOL!!! Cheaters do not fool their partners though. That is a fact. Some pretend it is not happening because they don't want to face the reality of the situation, but they know it is happening. Every one of them know. No one is that stupid.

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