1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Dec 13, 2006, 5:30 pm PST

I have never been married... (well I was technically for a few days, but I fixed that quickly!!) so money was never a big issue with me and any of my partners. I have lived with 3 men and we never discussed money... In fact we never even knew how much each other had or made!!! Sounds strange but that's the way it's always been and I like it that way. Now if I had children then things would be different but I am financially secure so I never had to depend on a man for money.

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Dec 13, 2006, 7:11 pm PST

It's all in how you approach it... Money can be perceived as a stumbling block - and representative of life's harsh realities. In contrast, romance seems like a more positive and creative expression of love. However, true love involves a combination of the ability to share the responsibilities of money (harsh reality) while creating for each other a sense of safety, attention and romantic expression. The differences in men and women allow for the interlocking of perspectives, abilities, vulnerabilities and strengths that can actually cause BOTH to grow as a result of each other. To summarize, money is just ONE opportunity to show real "LOVE" to your spouse - see it and treat it that way, instead of reacting to money as a problem and you'll have more time - and energy - for the romance!

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Dec 13, 2006, 7:12 pm PST

It's all in how you approach it... Money can be perceived as a stumbling block - and representative of life's harsh realities. In contrast, romance seems like a more positive and creative expression of love. However, true love involves a combination of the ability to share the responsibilities of money (harsh reality) while creating for each other a sense of safety, attention and romantic expression. The differences in men and women allow for the interlocking of perspectives, abilities, vulnerabilities and strengths that can actually cause BOTH to grow as a result of each other. To summarize, money is just ONE opportunity to show real "LOVE" to your spouse - see it and treat it that way, instead of reacting to money as a problem and you'll have more time - and energy - for the romance!

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Dec 13, 2006, 7:12 pm PST

It's all in how you approach it... Money can be perceived as a stumbling block - and representative of life's harsh realities. In contrast, romance seems like a more positive and creative expression of love. However, true love involves a combination of the ability to share the responsibilities of money (harsh reality) while creating for each other a sense of safety, attention and romantic expression. The differences in men and women allow for the interlocking of perspectives, abilities, vulnerabilities and strengths that can actually cause BOTH to grow as a result of each other. To summarize, money is just ONE opportunity to show real "LOVE" to your spouse - see it and treat it that way, instead of reacting to money as a problem and you'll have more time - and energy - for the romance!

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Dec 13, 2006, 7:13 pm PST

Ugggh - too depressing, I can't do this one tonight!

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Dec 13, 2006, 10:03 pm PST

When I got married, I had more. I had been on my own a couple of years. Had NO DeBT then I married someone, who knew NOTHING about money. He had so much debt,it was depressing. I know it may seem selfish, but I would never marry for money but I sure don't want someone again, who has no restraints. Hey, enjoy life have fun, but set priorities. He always gave me all the money, no questions ask. I got us out of debt. Then Mr. Know It All, decided he was the man again and put us in the same whole. I finally gave him the check book and everything and said YOU figure it out. Well after the separation, it was funny, because he finally started realizing the value of money. He is learning now, what I had to learn at 18! Guess better late than never. LOL. I actually didn't want anything when we separated, when I worked and did my share He worked, but couldn't change a diaper. Anyway, after the separation and He continued to do ugly things, it finally hit me, I was going to get my share. I just wanted bills paid and 50/50! I was fair and still felt bad. I never gave him the 2-carat back though. I am saving that for my daughter. I don't wont it, but I know she will.

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 5:27 am PST

money as in sex has to be 50/50-give 50-take 50-unless you wont to give me more-lol

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 5:29 am PST

money as in sex has to be 50/50-give 50-take 50-unless you wont to give me more-lol

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 5:35 am PST

money as in sex has to be 50/50-give 50-take 50-unless you wont to give me more-lol

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 6:25 am PST

money is another issue when it comes to relationships. Some people get into relationship in order for their debts to be settled down easily, others get into relationship to have fun becaz their buddies have got money, they can take them out for dinner, juz to enjoy life, otherwise they dont love them at all, they juz marry them for material purposes. And this could be a very serious issue such that husbands end up divorcing after noticing that they are used.

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 6:27 am PST

50/50 isn't equal when one spouse has triple the income of the other. Its also not equal when stepchildren come into the mix. There is no 50/50 when one person stays home and nurses babies, homeschools children and grows a garden.My ex-spouse worked 10-15 hours a week, I worked 126. He produced money, and I was the freeloader! When I added up my free labor at minimum wage and deducted half our living expenses, that man was seriously in debt to me! That was the last I EVER heard about not producing an income! [The child I homeschooled was his from another marriage!}

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 7:32 am PST

Money is a tool. As many people who have made a lot and given away a lot will say, if you want more happiness than your heart can hold learn how to give. Peace and Grace to all! Cece

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 8:40 am PST

feelalive... very good points.. I agree with it all.

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 8:40 am PST

feelalive... very good points.. I agree with it all.

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 14, 2006, 8:43 am PST

A woman who has children is in a very hard place financially and its very sad that many are made to feel like they have to "go to" their husband for money... women should be paid to have children!! (if both want them of course!)

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