you need to go to the beginning to ask why people stray in the first place. first off things change in a marriage and people get lazy in their relationship. marriage is like a really good job with benifits but if you slack off or get lazy then things get out of wack,.
for instance we get tired of the same thing night after night. we come home from work, fix dinner and start laundry. the mate comes home eats dinner takes a shower and sits to watch tv. or after the children come into our lives, we gain weight or we just want sex any more. we are too tired. thats when the men need to step up. now i know there are alot of men out there who take care of the house and the kids and do a damn good job at it too. but then the working wives take advantage of this and wants more. but its when we stop talking to eachother is when the problem starts. we need to communicate even if its what we do to irritate someone. but we also want to be praised and feel needed. and appreciated. its then when we feel abused and used that we turn to someone that will listen and that usually ends up in an affair. getting something that we are not getting at home, and thats passion. we all need to feel passion in our lives. that feeling we had in the beginning of our relationship or when we had our first love in our lives. the touching, petting, kissing, looks of longing into eachothers eyes. it takes two to tango and two to work at a marriage. other factors are drugs, alcohol, obeisity, in laws, yes in laws, butting in when they shouldnt. and the most important is personal hygeine, i have alot to say on that but im sure that this is enough for you to see where im going with this. i once talked to a couple that had been married for 60 years and his reason for a long marriage was give her all the love she can handle. and her reason was just say yes dear and feed them well. but then she said that make love as long as you can and as long as you can because that is what keeps you young inside. so take a long look at your relationship and see what you can do to improve it before it goes down the drain.
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