What His Breakup Lines Really Mean By David Zinczenko - Posted Mon, Mar 03, 2008, 4:50 pm PST

1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Mar 04, 2008, 5:41 am PST

Lots of subjectivity in this article. I wonder why it's always the guy's fault when a relationship ends. Sometimes, the guy is the biggest jerk and worthy of the woman's time; but I know plenty of women who are just as manipulative, dishonest, and unstable as men. Maybe if fewer of these types of prose existed, then there might be fewer minds of men and women poisened when they are in rocky relationships that they really want to salvage.

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Mar 04, 2008, 6:45 am PST

The links to the stories aren't working. Thanks.

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Mar 04, 2008, 1:16 pm PST

I always like reading David's articles. So, where are the solutions to breaking up in this article? We play too many mental games with each other. I truly feel honesty is the best solution. However, many of us don't really know exactly what we feel about the most deep, sincere personal issues with ourselves or in relationships. But, if we do, we more than likely are not sure how to express ourselves in caring, positive, self-assuring ways. Where does this leave us? More than likely, we KNOW the truth of most situations. So, you should never lie about how, when, where, why, or whatever. Instead, own your mistakes and only use the most pertinent information of the truth. And, keep to the main point of the problem. Less details, less hurt and insult. Remember, life is hard and lonely enough with the friends that you do have, so try to keep as many as possible because you'll never when they could literally save your life. -THX

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Mar 04, 2008, 4:03 pm PST

I've got the gist of all the break-up lines. My last ex used them all. Including "Let's still be friends". What I'd like to know is how to find a man who knows how to keep his promises.

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 5:06 am PST

Gee David....you seem to contradict yourself from one article to the next. Seems to me like you said in this article that you had fights or bads times in the relationship because he was caught flirting......and that can create a bad time in a relationship. Weren't you the one that just wrote an article about how flirting can spice up your life? well which is it? Seems like most of the 3000 people that responded to your article thought flirting was wrong and not a good idea if in a relationship. Now you say it can cause breakups....Hmmmm I read your article just to see what other dumb and stupid stuff you come up with. You see, there is no such thing as harmless flirting if your spoken for.

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 8:35 am PST

well i think that there is way more to all of these there has to be many more lines than that weve heard al those lines so they prolly dont say them anymore

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 1:42 pm PST

Wow you actually got something right yet still somehow managed tomiss the opportunity to crituque this inability to communicate in a healthy productive way. sigh.

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 1:42 pm PST

cr8_adventure: A most incredible excellent statement!!!

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 1:44 pm PST

men think women are complicated, we just say it as it is. Why do men start yelling instead of just talking to you ?? I can hear with two ears.

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 1:52 pm PST

Dave: I don't think I want to read anymore of your articles. It's not me it's you.

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 1:53 pm PST

davids g@y

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 1:57 pm PST

Duh!

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 2:03 pm PST

When I used "I still care about you" it meant "I don't want you to hate me"

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 2:05 pm PST

thnx

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 2:05 pm PST

And sometimes, it really is about him.... Some men, as well as some women, really aren't 'ready for lasting commitment, and follow a pattern of short lived relationships while always looking for something new and different and exciting. And then there is the new twist on the sterotyped image of female golddiggers. Other than the occasional mention of the male con artist that targeted rich widows, the old standard assumed it was usually women using their feminine charms and guile to 'take' poor fellas for what they could. Now that today's woman is as likely as man to have a career and good paying job, property, savings, a checkbook and bank cards, more women are finding themselves victims of men that have maxed out their credit cards, stripped their bank accounts, and defrauded them out of personal property and even talked them into opening new lines of credit for him to spend and/or lending them substantial sums of money. Many such men actually protect themselves from legal charges by really marrying the poor gal, who at the end of it now has to pay for a divorce, making a joke of old fashioned ideas about marriage meaning comitment!

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