661. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Feb 09, 2009, 7:52 pm PST

This has got to be one of the less intelligent aricles I've seen. It's realy simple, if he is opening, it means just that; he is opening up a conversation. There really isn't anything mysterious about and opening line

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662. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Feb 09, 2009, 7:54 pm PST

the best approach is eye contact and readwat she thinks fo and then sya hello hey hi you doin its reall no tthat serios body language and eye contact trust me its almsot like be honest no lines or gimmicks

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663. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Feb 09, 2009, 8:01 pm PST

All you need to know is that women are relatively stupid creatures. Most women are so enamored with shiny things or Italian sounding labels, they forget they actually need common sense. Just treat them like they're nothing. Ignore them and don't speak a lot. They're so easily confused, they'll actually think you're something special. And before you get all nervous about hanging out with a new chick, just remember some of them might have some book smarts but most all of 'em are dumb as a box of rocks. Don't take their indifference to mean they're not interested. It really means they're so confused by life in general, they can't decide what to think without someone telling them. It's the guys who confuse and baffle them with new approaches who sometimes get an in but in general, if you don't act goofy enough, they're programmed to diss you. Seriously, all you have to do is treat them like barn animals and they're silly enough to come back for more.

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664. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Feb 09, 2009, 8:44 pm PST

What kind of nonsense is this, seriously. This kind of garbage belongs in the national enquirer, or some other trash editorial. These vain generalizations are not only completely offbase, but clear attempts to make "psychological" assumptions about what said pickup method may be. I advise you not write any more articles, at least about something complex as dating and relationships, as making up these ridiculous assumptions and actually publishing them not only could do potential harm by tricking "duller" women into thinking these are tried and true reasons, but also just highlights the absolute lack of common sense you possess. Worthless garbage, thats what this article is. Might as well try and write an article about the personalities of rocks, you'd probably hit a little closer to home.

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665. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 12:35 am PST

My husband initially snagged me by asking me for my autograph! I was playing in a band on tour in Europe and,we played in Copenhagen(he's Danish),and he had loaned me the keyboard I had played on. I had been living in NYC for 10 years and was sick and tired of the guys there and their "too cool" attitude.Then,there was this cute,sweet guy,who wasn't afraid of being a little " not so cool",that was so refreshing. 2 months later I moved to Denmark and another 2 months we were married. Have been incredibly happy ever since,and it's been 3 years!

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666. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 12:50 am PST

Its ok for women to laugh & think men are dumb & stupid for using lame,horrible pick up lines,let us turn some tables here & see

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667. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 12:58 am PST

All of you so called "experts on meeting someone" are just plain idiots.You are making guide lines for something that is supposed to come natural.You are saying what is wrong and what is right? How do you know how someone likes to meet a potential partner? The fact is that you all have been implanting this information for years now and ruining any chance for alot of people to find "the one".Think about it this way....How did your parents meet 30,40,50 or 60 years ago? They met as children most likely,when all was inocent.My dad met my mom when he was a paper boy delivering my grandma's news paper,and they also went to school with eachother.They made a connection because they just did,no rules on an internet news page that says how you have to meet someone and what you're supposed to and not supposed to say.You never know what the other person likes or dislikes until you get to know them.The dating sites are terrible,you get some girl spilling her guts out of what she likes and dislikes and trying to impress you with what? They are saying too much up front that I dont want to know at that time.Where's the mystery? where's really getting to know someone by going out for some ice cream and finding out she's allergic to chocolate? Oh wait,I know everything about her because she has told the whole world already in her dating bio.? I remember walking through the halls in school and passing by a cute girl and making simple eye contact to see if she was interested.You know when you know but only without outside negative influence from negative unhappy "know it alls" that seem to be writing all the "dating rules" these days of now. To all that read this,learn something from it,which is you can always tell who the players are,male & female,besides that everyone deserves a fair chance even with a "one liner" which I find some very funny.If she cant take a joke,then shes not the one,there's another stuffy match for her out there somewhere.I personally have had women tell me that they wonder why no men ever talk to them when they go out.Now I see why, every other day there are more dating do's and dont's posted on the Yahoo news page and everywhere else like TV talk shows.Its scaring everyone away from thinking they cant act normal around women and have to put up a front.If you're a dork,then you're a dork,if you're cool,then you're cool and thats that. I say lay your cards flat out on the table,no bluffing,you win with the highest hand.If you have won by having a few ACE's up your sleeve,the truth will soon come out and you blew it,game over. Good luck to all singles.

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668. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 2:50 am PST

this is pretty interesting and could teach one alot on how to go about dates and ......you know reading alot more into what a guy says than what they actually make some of us believe.....INTERESTING! i liked it

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669. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 9:10 am PST

how about: "I just got outta prison, and I'd love to touch a woman again." or: "My shrink says it would be good to get out more. Where am I?" or: "The meds haven't really kicked in yet, so pardon the staring." or: "Hi, I plan on committing suicide next week, and I'd love to give you the best week of your life!" or: "This is the first time I've been out this year without my handgun"

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670. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 12:01 pm PST

As a man who has approached hundreds of people out of pure pleasure of interacting with new people, I'd like to offer my insight. I've noticed that more than what a man SAYS, it's important what he DOES. "Actions speak louder than words;" we've all heard it before and it's completely true. I've noticed that women respond to how I position my body, where my eyes are looking and my eye contact, and my voice tonality. In fact, I've observed this to be VASTLY more important than what I'm actually saying. When I approach a woman, I usually say nothing more than, "Hi, I'm __," or sometimes, "Wow, you are gorgeous, I had to come over here and say hi. What's your name?" I've done a great deal of self-improvement in the past two years of my life and as a result, I am significantly more honest with myself, as well as those around me. If I don't think a girl is "gorgeous" I won't say it; that doesn't mean I won't approach though. There are plenty of women out there who are FUN, ENERGETIC, and DOWN TO EARTH, which are all qualities that are important to me. I've met a lot of people these past couple years and I've noticed one problem a lot of guys have: they see this Approach as a big (treacherous) means to something else (i.e. sex with a beautiful woman). I've also noticed that is one of the biggest reasons a guy is not "successful" with women. I have found that my best interactions, my greatest and most entertaining conversations happen when I'm IN THE MOMENT, when I am speaking to a woman with absolutely no expectation of outcome. Some of my most fun interactions never led to a kiss, or a phone number, or another date. Specifically with regard to Mr. Zinczenko's article, I've got a few thoughts I'd like to share. As for compliments, a compliment with intent is devious and self-centered. A genuine compliment, on the other hand, can be more effective than the cure for cancer! I recently discovered the real truth behind this, talking to my friend Isabelle (name changed for anonymity). When we spoke, she'd say certain things in a teasing way, so I'd tease back. After a while I realized this wasn't damaging to her self-esteem, but it wasn't building it up. Also, I realized that when she said those teasing things, it was her ego defending (hiding) itself. One time, I tried genuinely complimenting her, with absolutely no intent or expectation. It TOTALLY changed her day around. I've started repeating this on a more subliminal level and she and I get along BETTER THAN EVER. She'll send me text messages at random throughout the day saying this like, "You know just how to cheer me up :)" That right there is what puts a smile on my face! So moral of the story: compliments have got to be genuine. Next up, One-Liners. This is ridiculous. Do guys really try this? I've certainly used them jokingly with girls I'm already acquainted with, but I would never approach a woman with a cheesy pickup line. I say all kinds of crazy things that make people around me laugh, but directly stating interest in a woman with an artificial line seems like a very bad idea. Buying a Girl a Drink. Man, I could write a book on this one alone! Instead I'll try and keep it short and sweet. Buying a girl a drink as a means to impress her or get her to talk with you is WEAK. Affection is EARNED, not BOUGHT! I rarely buy girls drinks, very rarely. And it'%3

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671. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 12:09 pm PST

very rarely. And it's not because I'm cheap; I'm actually very generous. It's because I've noticed how women respond to men that buy them drinks. They use them. Obviously there are exceptions to this rule, but in general, when a man meets a woman for the first time and immediately offers to buy her a drink, that's about as far as it goes. TO THE WOMEN READING THIS, PLEASE email me if I am wrong about that! What does the woman think about a man who quickly offers to buy her a drink? "This guy is using money as a means to meet beautiful women. Why can't he do it without the money? He doesn't know how. He's not good enough for me to date him." When I am out at a bar or club and a woman asks me to buy her a drink, I don't even consider it an option. Instead, I keep it playful, saying something like, "Haha! OK, let's find you a hubby tonight, who will pay for ALL your drinks, ALL night! How about him??" Then I'll point to the goofiest, most awkward guy I can spot. I like to play games and bets for who buys the next round. If I win a bet fair and square, I'll let a girl buy me a drink. And after that, I will ALWAYS buy the next round. Another great notion here is investments. If a girl just spent $8 on a drink for me, she's now invested time, energy, and money in me. The interaction is going to be a lot stronger after that, as we naturally will both feel like we know each other better now. These "rules" that I follow are not absolute; there are times I buy a girl a drink shortly after meeting her, there are times I don't let women buy me drinks, etc. I use my personal judgment at the time to decide that. Asking a Woman a Question, in my opinion, is a low-value behavior, GENERALLY SPEAKING. I understand no one would ever get anywhere in life without asking questions. I mean immediately following the Approach. Flooding a woman with "information" questions such as, "Where are you from?" "What do you do for work/where do you go to school?" etc., is so incredibly boring that I'm annoyed just thinking about it now haha! It's a surefire way for a man to get put into the dreadful "Friend Zone". I make statements and observations, then ask questions. It tends to bring about a more insightful and genuine response. Example: "You seem like a really fun girl! What puts a smile on your face?" I love asking questions like that, because it gives her a chance to use her imagination; it's so open-ended that she can really say anything she'd like. It's a great way to strike up exciting conversation, giving us a chance to get to know each other beyond the usual, "So how do you like your work?" These are my thoughts and observations. I'm ALWAYS willing to admit I'm wrong, so please, feel free to share your opinions and disagreements with me! It's how we all learn! :) e

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672. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Feb 11, 2009, 7:53 am PST

This is GOD-AWFUL. Sure some use these, also sure they fail miserably. I think the premise and original perspective is horribly flawed, "he's in for the emotional equivalent of an 'American Idol' audition." I don't ever feel this way. In fact, I'm the one judging HER performance. And if SHE doesn't cut it, for whatever reason, I am more than willing to say I was wrong in my initial interest and to let her know subtly she's NOT going to Hollywood. Since when should a man negate his power in hopes of sharing a woman's presence? She's hoping you are more man than that.

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