Does a Wandering Eye Mean a Wandering Heart? By David Zinczenko - Posted Tue, Nov 06, 2007, 6:38 pm PST

1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Nov 06, 2007, 10:36 pm PST

Your articles give insights into the differences between the sexes and they are very healthy reading. Keep up the good work! from mweru2007@yahoo.com

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 6:33 am PST

Let's get real - men look. Period. So do women. period. Whether it's open or hidden, real people or skin mags, people look at people. If you have the Mona Lisa hanging in your living room, are you never going to look at other art again? Hardly! It's not an issue of admiring another body, it's all about security and trust within a relationship. Getting upset with your partner for looking at someone else is a display of insecurity and/or distrust. Sure, there's crossing the line, like openly staring at a woman's breasts too long, but then that would be rude, crude and offensive whether you are in a relationship, with a partner, or alone! And yes, have some manners and be respectful of your partner in how and when you look, and what you may say about what you saw. Personally, if my partner did NOT look, I would be concerned. And I figure he can work up his appetite anywhere he wants, as long as he comes home for dinner!

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 9:01 am PST

All I know is that there is a time and place for everything. Men already have a bad rap for not listening as much as we should so its only wise that we choose appropriatly the time in where, when and how we look.

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 11:15 am PST

Hi everyone- I have a quick question that kind of relates to this. I know guys watch porn, but if it really, REALLY bothered your girlfriend to the point where y'all almost broke up over it twice already, would the guys here give it up for her? And to add another facet, what if the amount of sex if the relationship went down exponentially as soon as the boyfriend got his internet connection back?

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 11:47 am PST

As a wife of a fantastic man and Mother of 2 red blooded sons...I understand that Men are going to look and that its perfectly natural!!! As a woman.....All I'm thinking is......OMG "I'm fat" "I'm ugly" "He wants her not me" "i'm old" "I'm not good enough" ect ect ect......That is the real problem...My brain says one thing....But my heart and ego FEEL another...Just the way it is!

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 12:04 pm PST

That's exactly it. It's like, "Why would you look at some random woman on a screen when you can have the real thing?"

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 12:05 pm PST

Oh, wait. You were talking about a wandering eye, not my question. Sorry.

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:06 pm PST

I don't think so. I have a wondering eye and if I see a lovely lady I give her a compliment.

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:10 pm PST

Oh come on. You ladies know you look at the good lookin' fellas and don't want your "significant other" to know. Don't you reckon he's gonna do the same. Just because y'all look at other good lookin' people don't mean he's wantin' to wander anymore then it means you're gonna wander.

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:10 pm PST

It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, it's where you eat your dinner!!!

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:10 pm PST

Porn isn't just a "decision", it's an addiction. I suggest reading up on porn and men/women before making any drastic decisions.

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:10 pm PST

I don't ogle other women because my wife should be the only woman in the world that I ogle. It requires discipline; but, at the same time, the reward is that she knows my commitment to her. Making excuses about "everyone" doing it doesn't make it right. If you want to wreck intimacy, feel free to keep looking. Your wife or girlfriend won't ever be able to compete with all that's out there; and, in the end, you will be desensitizing yourself of her beauty.

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:10 pm PST

Very true. Very, very true.

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:11 pm PST

I remained faithful for 3-1/2 years but then my now ex-girlfriend who is 9 years older than me, I am 38, left me for any guy that was willing to put out and supply her with marijuana. She never did drugs around me before. Talk about being blind-sided. We were going to buy a house together and she went all in on her own and now can't afford the place.

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Nov 07, 2007, 2:11 pm PST

I only look if there looking at me and if I catch them looking, then I introduce myself and give them my penis because thats what they want, my penis.

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