751. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Nov 18, 2008, 10:38 am PST

I have a friend whose crazy about a guy that never stops "looking". She doesn't want to acknowledge the fact that he also, most of the time takes the "bacon" home behind her back. They kicked their "relationship " off with red hot sex while he was, and still is living with another woman. Do I need to mention that she's 13 years older than him? He doesn't just look , he's prowling most of the time. She thinks a lot of hot sex will keep him next to her side but sadly this guy constantly needs variety. I warned her and needless to say, our friendship went down the drain. Wake up Madam !! He will never change and sadly he uses you and your life experience to further his own goals. You really deserve better.

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752. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Nov 18, 2008, 10:39 am PST

Mr. David Z i like you, i like all i read so far and because not all conversations go this well with a man telling it all, and what's on in there mind i am glad i can come and read honesty in detail from a man. By the way, not only do i look, and like to look i let him know i'm looking and he can tell me as well and even laugh and we have fun with it.

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753. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Nov 18, 2008, 11:00 am PST

spinning class, that's funny - How about the ones being looked at? i like to look but i hate comments when i am looked at. Some real gentlemen comment just by saying -you are a beautiful young lady, other you just want to kick in the OhOh. OR just look and keep it moving don't start making mini movies in ya head that's when the relationship goes sour because you want someone eles so you picture yourself already there.

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754. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Nov 24, 2008, 12:58 pm PST

hey its true at first you will feel disrespected but then you get over it and say hey she is hot! or he is attractive...as long as that trust between you two is there all is cool...

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755. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Nov 24, 2008, 3:55 pm PST

I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF, BEFORE I FOUND THE WOMAN THAT I FELL IN LOVE WITH I LOOKED AS A SINGLE MAN AT TIMES WITH NO MATE IN MY LIFE I DIDN'T FEEL I WAS BEING DISRESPTFUL TO ANYONE. BUT AFTER I FOUND MY MATE I KNEW THAT LOVED COMPLETELY. I HAD NO NEED TO LOOK ANYMORE. I LIVED A NORMAL HAPPY FAMILY LIFE, AS IT TURNED OUT SHE WAS NOT HAPPY AND HAD JUST STARTED TO EXPAND HER LOOKING GROUNDS. SHE LOOKED AT MOST ANYONE THAT WAS MALE ANYWHERE, AT THE MARKET - AT CHURCH - ANYWHERE EVEN AT THE PARK WHERE WE WERE AT TO SUPERVISE OUR DAUGHTER'S CLASS MATES . ANYWHERE IT NEVER WAS WRONG IN HER EYES. AT FIRST SHE CLAMED THAT I WAS WRONG THAT SHE WAS NOT LOOKING AT HIM, I HAD NEVER SAID TO HER " WHO ARE YOU LOOKING AT". WE ARE NOW DIVORCED AND CAN AS BEFORE LOOK AT ANYONE SHE WANTS TO. I KNOW SHE DID NOT WANT ME IN HER LIFE AND I DON'T WANT TO BE WHERE I'M NOT WANTED. I'AM LIVING A GOOD LIFE WITH MY KIDS AND MY GRANDKIDS AS A SINGLE HAPPY MAN.

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756. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Nov 24, 2008, 3:55 pm PST

I CAN ONLY SPEAK FOR MYSELF, BEFORE I FOUND THE WOMAN THAT I FELL IN LOVE WITH I LOOKED AS A SINGLE MAN AT TIMES WITH NO MATE IN MY LIFE I DIDN'T FEEL I WAS BEING DISRESPTFUL TO ANYONE. BUT AFTER I FOUND MY MATE I KNEW THAT LOVED COMPLETELY. I HAD NO NEED TO LOOK ANYMORE. I LIVED A NORMAL HAPPY FAMILY LIFE, AS IT TURNED OUT SHE WAS NOT HAPPY AND HAD JUST STARTED TO EXPAND HER LOOKING GROUNDS. SHE LOOKED AT MOST ANYONE THAT WAS MALE ANYWHERE, AT THE MARKET - AT CHURCH - ANYWHERE EVEN AT THE PARK WHERE WE WERE AT TO SUPERVISE OUR DAUGHTER'S CLASS MATES . ANYWHERE IT NEVER WAS WRONG IN HER EYES. AT FIRST SHE CLAMED THAT I WAS WRONG THAT SHE WAS NOT LOOKING AT HIM, I HAD NEVER SAID TO HER " WHO ARE YOU LOOKING AT". WE ARE NOW DIVORCED AND CAN AS BEFORE LOOK AT ANYONE SHE WANTS TO. I KNOW SHE DID NOT WANT ME IN HER LIFE AND I DON'T WANT TO BE WHERE I'M NOT WANTED. I'AM LIVING A GOOD LIFE WITH MY KIDS AND MY GRANDKIDS AS A SINGLE HAPPY MAN.

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757. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 28, 2009, 11:11 am PDT

I've seen people compare it to looking at art, which is a thing, but women aren't things. They have a mind, will and emotions which the "art appreciator" may very well not enjoy if in a relationship with the "art", so it seems to me that it's silly and a little immature to separate the parts of a female like that, valuing her looks when you might want to run from her soul. For instance, I've heard many intelligent men say that they do not find females attractive who pose nude for all to see, because they find them mentally unattractive for doing so and therefore wouldn't want to look at their bodies. That said, I can understand a man wanting to glance at an attractive clothed female that he notices. Women want to be admired, and men want to admire. (That is how we are designed and what gets us into a relationship initially. Once that initial attraction is there, a relationship can be built, and the "admiration" now comes in many forms, not purely visual.) So just as it is natural for a man to admire beauty, it is likewise natural for a woman to be hurt when the admiration turns away from her and onto another. However I have matured enough to realize that a woman's reaction to this isn't conducive to happiness and have given up being bothered by that initial glance. However, when after the initial glance, your man cannot seem to keep a sentence straight, is nervous, agitated and distracted, not able to communicate until he's gotten in another glance or two or three, that is the behavior that troubles me. Not the initial glance at an attractive female.

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758. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Jun 30, 2009, 9:31 pm PDT

hi ! i read you book, good book ;-) nice article ! i still hate the roving eye but hey ! who can stop it ? Madame Dump HIm perhaps !

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759. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Sep 29, 2009, 6:24 pm PDT

Guys continue on gawking at women in front of your lady...continue making comments about women being good looking in front of your lady...then once you have disrepected your lady enough...and this is not rocket science...she will get her revenge by having an affair. I say all is fair in love and war.

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760. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Sep 29, 2009, 6:59 pm PDT

One negative action in a relationship wipes out the ten postive. Dr. Phil

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761. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Dec 01, 2009, 11:25 am PST

Reading these comments...I have personally come to the conclusion that there is no hope for humanity. Men, go have at it. Screw around on your wife/GF and catch the myriad of STD's out there. Yeah, you're a "man" now. Look at all the hoes you want. That makes you a "visual" red-blooded "man", right? Go for it. And stupid women, keep on making excuses for these pieces of dog waste instead of kicking them out of your lives and the gene pool like you should be doing. It's so disrespectful. I don't get how grown women could tolerate being berated in this fashion by their significant other/spouse. You little boys need to grow up.

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