What's the Difference Between Flirting and Cheating? By David Zinczenko - Posted Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 10:16 am PST

1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 11:39 am PST

There is a fine line between being kind and caring and flirting with intention. It's only been recently that I've really had to examine the differences. Honest intentions and being honest with yourself about your intentions is good. Also I like the anaology of art-appreciation, but I think that showing restraint in the presence of your significant other is the mature approach. I have male friends that really like having women as friends, but to someone who is the slightest bit insecure it can be troublesome to a relationship. Just a thought. Cece

Report Abuse

2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 12:31 pm PST

I don't expect men to ignore half the population and not look at women when passing by them. However, it's a bit much to expect women to put up with men preferring to have an affair with the remote in hand rather than pay closer attention to their wives because they are dysfunctional. It's a bit much to expect the strip club to be a healthy replacement of "appreciation" when the wife is being ignored daily by the husband even if he doesn't feel "emotionally attached" in any way to that "artificial environment" he's visiting. There's a big difference between scoping and gawking. Since man is not emotionally attached to his natural environment either, and needs "to fulfill his biology, change his playlist, and get attention" etc. looking does eventually lead to cheating:first mentally and then physically on your partner. Get a grip on reality.

Report Abuse

3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 12:37 pm PST

I think kissing another women is cheating I don't buy into using the excuse I was drunk.You know what you want and you know what you are doing.

Report Abuse

4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 1:03 pm PST

You know after reading most of the comments, on the cheating blog. Well may 10% too much to read and this. It's very discouraging to me. I feel so different and seem to be in the minority. I don't think I ever wont to get remarried. I do long for companionship but I will never again settle for just anyone. I don't expect them to be perfect. Just freakin honest. If you really intruely love someone you accept them for who they are. I understand Men looking at women. Women are very beautiful. But there is a fine line. If he is also gaulking at other women and never showing you TLC then that is the beginning of problems. I for one, as a woman, don't have any problem with lusting after men. I've been love struck once. One time, I looked at a guy, and when his, "puppy dog eyes" looked back, my body became intensely hot and trembles to this day when I am around him. Now I have flirted, out of fun, which was probably wrong. Funny I can flirt with someone I think is cute, but Im not interested in at all. But when I fell for this certain someone, I couldn't even look him in the eye. If I did I became extremely weak. I guess we all have our own flirting opinions. I would love to hear some personally.

Report Abuse

5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 6:28 pm PST

Cheating is about intention, Flirting is about being alive!

Report Abuse

6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Dec 07, 2006, 8:06 pm PST

Cheating is when it goes past a little "peck on the cheek". Flirting is without intention...unless intention is going beyond the "peck on the cheek". Just my opinion.

Report Abuse

7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 5:03 am PST

Husband says, sexual conversation on line, is cheating because the potential to actually meet and do it, is real.

Report Abuse

8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 5:06 am PST

When the bag boy insists on taking your groceries to the car, and asks if there is anyone at home to help unload them, is that hitting on me? This guy always compliments my appearance. Even when I was in my Halloween costume!

Report Abuse

9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 6:41 am PST

People who like people in general I think have a greater potential for difficulty with this question. Enjoying socializing with other people is not the issue being disrespectful to your partner is the issue. If you would be hurt by a behavior exibited by your partner to another then don't do it yourself. Treat the person you "love" like you want to be treated. It's not that hard if your willing. Cece

Report Abuse

10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 6:43 am PST

People who like people in general I think have a greater potential for difficulty with this question. Enjoying socializing with other people is not the issue being disrespectful to your partner is the issue. If you would be hurt by a behavior exibited by your partner to another then don't do it yourself. Treat the person you "love" like you want to be treated. It's not that hard if your willing. Cece

Report Abuse

11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 7:07 am PST

I think the bottom line is, What does your partner think? By far all partners are different. Some are very jealous. My ex got mad at me when guys would flirt. I always told him about it. I believe just being open with each other is a good start. Setting boundaries, trust, communicating, and showing your loved one ALWAYS some TLC. Are all SOME important factors, I believe. When the lines of communication are broken things can get out of hand or be misinterpreted.

Report Abuse

12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 7:16 am PST

I think their are alot of good opinions on this blog. Sometimes we can be blinded by some things and reading from someone elses's heart opens our eyes. I guess a good way to sum it up is what Cece said, "treat the person you love like you want to be treated". I for one loved to be rubbed and touched so therefore I do alot of rubbing and caressing. I love complimenting people and being around folks. I think that is one reason I've been miserable, my job keeps me closed up. But i am about to change that. We just need to set boundaries with our spouse and even if we don't have a significant other, like me. I still need boundaries. I have found you can't even smile at a guy without them coming on to you. If a guy says something to you, and he thinks its a compliment but you are offended by it, how do you tell them in a nice way...you didn't appreciate that comment. I struggle with that. I usually always try and not make eye contact because I don't won't them to say anything. What happen to the smiles, and quick glances or just a simple compliment. Not DA*N you look good or (little moaning sounds when you pass by) Stormi, I bet you can answer this one. LOL!

Report Abuse

13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 7:19 am PST

#12, no, I think he want's tipped!

Report Abuse

14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 7:24 am PST

Hi mygrace. Part of the problem with men is that they won't tell you what they think. They internalize their feelings until they get to the point where they're mad, then exhibit rash behavior. You are right about being honest. After all is we were hiding something, we would tell them!

Report Abuse

15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 7:25 am PST

we would NOT tell them...correction

Report Abuse