16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 10:17 am PST

flirting is mental. cheating is physical. however, you wouldn't do either if you had a hot partner. you'd only have eyes for them.

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 10:17 am PST

K- i have the same problem. It makes me so mad but it aint nothing you can do if they deny something. Funny thing is the thing that in my situation that they are denying isn't bad, it's the lying thats bad. It makes no sense how someone can tell you alot of secrets and then hide some things. Think its fear? I have somethings that i'm not hiding just haven't had the opportunity to tell him because everytime we get close he pushes me away again.Honestly, that hurts more than anything. Being pushed away,instead of just speaking your heart. I recently started going out with someone and I just feel yuck with him. We are suppose to be friends only (my request) but he is liking me too much and I am struggling with pushing him away because he has been hurt by alot of people. But that is what got me in a bad marriage, I couldn't push him away. And I don't want a repeat. LOL!

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 10:23 am PST

#20-I like the way you said that. I never thought of it that way. Now I hate to admit it, but I have flirted just to tick someone off. I know...bad bad bad and childish. But hey Im not perfect, LOL!:) I do agree about the hot partner, or just someone who you love, you don't wont or desire anyone else when you have found, "The One" but obviously that is my opinion. LOL

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 11:57 am PST

#22: mygrace, thanks. that's just more or less how it was taught to me. lusting or flirting might be done from a distance, but it's still without physically touching the other person and largely just in the mind of the person doing it(mental). cheating is actually executing those thoughts you have in your mind into the reality with someone else (physical). nobody's perfect. we are all learning. best wishes.

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 12:23 pm PST

I agree. When you find The One, you don't desire anyone else. If either one of us sees another attractive person, we can look, as long it’s done tastefully (i.e., not gawking). We’re only human; it’s only natural to look. I’m secure enough with myself and our relationship to know that I can trust him. When a couple truly loves one another, there is mutual respect, trust, honesty and commitment in their relationship. Their strong moral fibers will guide them to do the right thing in situations involving people outside their union.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 1:39 pm PST

Infidelity on a multitude of levels is wrong, whether it is your boyfriend or husband that is doing the cheating: sexual, emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual are all forms of cheating in my eyes, something I recently experienced with my boyfriend. Because of the deep connections created and forged by intimate emotional and physical/sexual intercourse we recognize and acknowledge this form of infidelity as the most destructive to the marital bond and therefore to society as a whole. My boyfriend of 2 months cheated on me with his wife of 13 years. This man posted his profile on Yahoo Personals claiming to be Single, Never Married and having no children, when in fact he has 2 boys, 3 and 5 years old. This is the worst form of cheating. The more women forgive or make excuses for men that cheat the more they continue to get a "get out of jail card free". Once this happens they will do it again and why shouldn't they, they were forgiving once why not a second time or even a third time.

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 2:14 pm PST

cntrygirloflv - I think you got the scenario wrong. This man cheated on his wife. He lied to you about his availability. He had a dalliance with you for 2 months - not exactly what one could call a boyfriend.

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 4:04 pm PST

Oh my, Oh my, Oh my, mygrace, please don't do that to yourself again. You are so like me, never want to hurt anyones feelings (in a relationship) on purpose. It's totally to much empathy that is what gets us in trouble. Just as you said in your post. I am like you, I love the touching, cuddling, and comfort in knowing that I am treating him like I want to be treated (Do unto others as you would have them do unto you) (Well, it does work in sex most of the time too!) OMG, I'm going to H*ll....LOL. I have to ask you though, aren't you into Astrology like me? I have, like 12 books on it. I just wondered if you had any experiences with a Taurus 1...My ex was 5/21 (an older), and the BF is 4/28 and much younger...I'd like your opinion. Thanks, K

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 5:17 pm PST

I have to dissagree with the "flirting is mental cheating is physical" definition... I am, and have allways been, a very physically person, I touch, hug, and cuddle with friends, male and female, and certainly this is NOT cheating. I also flirt with most everyone, male and female, so long as I know that that person will not take it for something it isn't, and I would not consider that cheating either, and neither would my partener. As long as everything remains "all in good fun" and both parties are honest with eachother, then obviously it's not cheating. At least in my books.

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 5:36 pm PST

K, Thanks for your comment. I wondered about that ,too. What is the present day etiquette? I told this bagboy I didn't need help, no I can get it, and Thank you but its not a problem for me to take my own groceries. I joked, as he made it obvious that he wasn't taking no for an answer, that he just really enjoys going outside. He admitted that he was always happy for the oppurtunity to go outside. I didn't feel inclined to tip because this is not a service I needed. Alsso, he is blsck and this is the south, and I never know what's politically correct or percieved as an insult , these days. Most store's bagboys don't carry groceries unless requested. I don't know if bagbots expect tips these days. It was when he asked me, if there was someone at home to help me unload them, that it occurred to me that maybe he was hitting on me. O, well I'm not tipping him unless he's doing a service that I want!

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 08, 2006, 9:11 pm PST

At my local grocery store, the bag boys are obligated to take the groceries to your car...part of the service. Then again, this is south FLA and that is a necessity for some of the older folks. There is a sign up, not to tip. WOM, I think he was out of line. I agree with Stormi, sometimes I think they just want to go outside, and more times than not, I wouldn't want to bag for the person behind me either...LOLOL

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Dec 09, 2006, 5:53 am PST

This is the same store where they told me not to bother putting the carts in place. The people in this store are very upbeat, helpful, and friendly. I apparently am being too pleasant to the bagboy . Its confusing being my age, does he just think I'm old? or is he hitting on me? Like when I was forty and saw women my age carrying an infant, is it their newborn or their grandchild? Sheesh! This bagboy wasn't always quick with the compliments, it wouldn't occur to me that maybe he is hitting on me. On halloween I wore the toga and velvet cape with pants underneath that had fringes on the bottom. I wore a short wig that was black with bold white stripes. I wore pale make-up with dark eyes and red lips. BB came across the store to tell how much he liked my hair. I was in such a good mood that day, everyone who laid an eye on me at least smiled if not an outright bellylaugh!

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Dec 09, 2006, 6:39 am PST

K-Hey! Sorry I don't really have any comments in astrology! I've only recently started back reading my horoscope. I wasn't allowed to read anything like that. Yes, I don't wont a repeat and I don't wont to hurt anyone. I know I have alot to learn in that area. I just finished reading a letter I got from this guy and I am really going to have to sit down and maybe write him back on my feelings. I ONLY like him as a friend and he wants WAY more than I can give him.

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Dec 09, 2006, 1:11 pm PST

"...it's (strip clubs) just a bit of art appreciation": A woman is not a bit of art. A Woman is not an art object. A woman is not an object. Therein lies the problem when women dress sexy (or is a semi/nude dancer). She turn herself into a (sex) object. What's so wrong with being a object? An object is not a human being. You don't have to consider the feelings of an object when you "use it". When you're done with it or you're bored with it you can just discard it. That is the danger for the women when we tread of the sexy ground. We are ultimately (correctly) treated as if we don't matter. We are an object. Same danger goes for men who pursue "so called" sexy women. He is attempting to pursue a human relationship with a woman who chooses to present herself (and so must think of herself) as an object. Or as quoted in the article "just a bit of art appreciation".

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Dec 09, 2006, 1:11 pm PST

"...it's (strip clubs) just a bit of art appreciation": A woman is not a bit of art. A Woman is not an art object. A woman is not an object. Therein lies the problem when women dress sexy (or is a semi/nude dancer). She turn herself into a (sex) object. What's so wrong with being a object? An object is not a human being. You don't have to consider the feelings of an object when you "use it". When you're done with it or you're bored with it you can just discard it. That is the danger for the women when we tread of the sexy ground. We are ultimately (correctly) treated as if we don't matter. We are an object. Same danger goes for men who pursue "so called" sexy women. He is attempting to pursue a human relationship with a woman who chooses to present herself (and so must think of herself) as an object. Or as quoted in the article "just a bit of art appreciation".

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