Are You Too Clingy? By David Zinczenko - Posted Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 12:03 am PDT

1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 2:30 am PDT

This is a good one!! Thank you, I'll try to practice what u've preached.

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 8:26 am PDT

Great advice as always David! Although I have a hard time believing anyone would want a joint e-mail account... I mean, really!?!

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 9:57 am PDT

Dammit, Zinczenko, you've done it again. You've taken a topic that could help people realize something about themselves and given it an idiotic, lazy, superficial glazed-over run-through. Do your work, dammit. You don't deserve to be on Yahoo! anymore.

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 1:11 pm PDT

Men are always looking for the door when they blame the problem on the woman, instead of seeing their own faults could have caused the problem. Instead of lying be truthful. Instead of nagging tell the other person you love them. Better yet show the other person that you care. There is a big difference between clinginess and being overly concerned, especially when you know how difficult of a time the other person is going through in their life.

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 1:20 pm PDT

David, I have a few more no no's that suggest someone is too clingy, these don't apply to a certain sex (Both Men & Women). (1.) When you go out with your friends and your mate calls your cell, the entire night. (2.) Your mate practically sleeps on top of you at night, because they claim that they have to be as "close" as possible to you, or they can't sleep. These are a few no no's that I've heard alot of my friends complain about. So, if you've ever known your mate to do either of these, better have that talk!!!

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 1:46 pm PDT

well it may sound weird but my aunt and uncle have a joint email account but then again they have been married for over 25 years

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 2:17 pm PDT

Joint email accounts??? That's ludicrous! The excessive phone call are a bit cute from time to time. Dave mentioned the way girls cling, but what about guys? Guys tend to think it's vital to drink and eat from our plate! 2.) (As mentioned by someone else) it seems that some men like to sleep practically on top of women. 3) This might not be much of a clinginess, but what about trying to advice or control the way a woman dresses, e.g. v-neck shirts, skirts are too short, etc.

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 3:19 pm PDT

I agree with you David on this one. I guess my guy is the other 36%...because he would rather be with me than let me go off with the girls! LOL I think HE is the clingy one. How bout when the guy calls more than twice and he is the cuddler..?

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 6:16 pm PDT

Wow! What about the guys who are too clingy? How do you get them to realize that? I would love to have a girls night out, time to myself, no internet trash and videos, and no phone calls. But I guess the guys get the choices and we get the trash.

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 7:24 pm PDT

Ummm...switch from the last post? Dave, where are you coming from? I'm not sure you know. You claim to be an expert on these topics. Your credo's are??? You float from one side of the boat to the other???

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Aug 16, 2007, 9:36 pm PDT

#9 yeah i see your point and yes guys have far more issues when it comes to being clingy..

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Aug 17, 2007, 4:31 am PDT

Mutuals respect is the key in any relationship or friendship. Guys would do well to click on the link at the bottom of the article for 10 ways women judge you. Today is my birthday and I am spending it with my daughter because her mom isn't able to spend quality time with her. Yesterday her mom spent the evening at the emergency room, and I ended up canceling my plans at the last minute. We're seperated and getting a divorce too, but as I listened to her talk in the car, I could see a big difference between her and let's say a friend of mine at work. Also women, it's not a good idea to grab the steering wheel while driving for any reason. I think in general when men find someone they totally feel comfortable they learn to trust that person as well.

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Aug 17, 2007, 1:23 pm PDT

In my experience, when a man says I'm being "clingy", he's just not that into me. He's just not man enough to take it on himself so he nitpicks until it's my fault. Blameshifting is a common way for men and women to end relationships. Now, clingy? Let's talk about that. I think men and women would agree that when they start dating someone who wants to spend every waking moment with them, that's romantic, sure, but doesn't that person have a life? don't they have to go to work or go home and water the plants? I've said it countless times, people will let you know what kind of person they are within two dates. One date if they are extreme. All you need to do is listen to them.

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Aug 18, 2007, 7:29 pm PDT

roger058, Happy BD, mine was last Sunday. It's sad that her Mother doesn't have time from her, that is sad. You sound like a good father, kudo's to you for caring. Why would anyone grab a steering wheel from anyone who is driving? No matter how mad you are?

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sat, Aug 18, 2007, 7:33 pm PDT

My opinion is that people are "clingy" when they are with someone they know they can't have or are not going to keep for whatever reason. I for one enjoy my space and time to do things I want to do with my friends. I don't want to be with a man that doesn't want his own space or that doesn't have other interests. When that happens, there's nothing to talk about at the end of the day. I enjoy our 15 minutes each at night when we both talk about our days, then go have fun with each other for the rest of the evening.

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