16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Aug 19, 2007, 12:59 pm PDT

#15 totally agree that you must have other interests otherwise you have to ask what brought you together in the first place. so what do you do when you're in love with your best friend who wants her own space? do you give her space and just assume that you will remain friends while you're going through a divorce on your own?

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Aug 19, 2007, 7:31 pm PDT

Yes, you give her space, continue to be friends with her. Wait it out. Do not include her in your mess. If she loves you, she will stay way out of it and give you the time to sort things out. If you really love her, respect her, she probably loves you to death and is trying to stay on the outskirts so as not to be an issue in your issue. She wants you to deal with this on your own and doesn't want to become an issue in yours as I said before. Been there, done that. Email me at my post to yahoo (just put the blog in the subject line)...I respect the gf, she is smart in wanting to stay clear of the shiza! Trust me, been through it all.

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Sun, Aug 19, 2007, 7:32 pm PDT

#17 was for #16

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 6:25 am PDT

thanks for your advice. we have similiar stories I'm sure. I watched Tyler Perry's movie "diary of a mad black woman" last night on TBS, she had a man who loved her but instead she went back to her husband just to divorce him when she was ready.

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 11:48 am PDT

Hang in there Roger! What's meant to be will be ....just give it time. Totally understand what #17 is saying. Should we decide to end our marriage it won't be because of the "best friend" but due to things leading up to that relationship. Don't want hers or mine to be for that reason. If there is to be a future would like for it to be without any guilt.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 12:49 pm PDT

David you have confirmed my notion that my significant other of 6yrs is totally clingy! But guess what, I'm the girlfriend. He calls me for each event in his day, which amounts to 5-10 calls. He gave us a joint e-mail account and wonders if i have a personal one, which i do. And all the other symptoms correspond to him perfectly. All he wants for us to do is stay home together all the time and I'm always asking him don't you want to hang out with the boys, hoping and praying he'll say yes so i can do me! We definitely are going to have the talk because he has been crouching in on my social butterfly personality for to long and basically i need me time before i end up on the news. I DON'T KNOW IF I HAVE MORE GUYISH QUALITIES WITHIN MY CHARACTER, BUT ALL MY BOYFRIENDS HAVE BEEN CLINGY!

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 2:12 pm PDT

interesting thought.. "a future without guilt"

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 4:29 pm PDT

Glad to read about other people's experiences and see that guys can be too clingy too. I've seen that a lot. Guess it comes down to everyone having a different concept of how much "personal space" is appropriate. (Are you listening, David Z.?) Give us gals a break! This may be a men's column, but you need to get in touch with the reality of modern-day relationships.

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 4:36 pm PDT

Klmonsour, that was good advice for roger058. Take care of what's on your plate now, take time to heal and then go forward from there. It's better to reduce your emotional baggage before embarking on a new relationship.

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 5:31 pm PDT

#24, Nothing is on my plate, I'm happy with my BF, this is just advice from a previous relationship. I am fine, feeling great and happy with my life. Just trying to help roger through a difficult time. I'm really happy with my life, couldn't ask for more. K

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Aug 20, 2007, 6:02 pm PDT

#25 You misunderstood me. I'm just agreeing with your advice and reiterating what you said to Roger. Chill, babe!

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Aug 21, 2007, 1:22 pm PDT

good stuff!

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Aug 21, 2007, 1:25 pm PDT

This artice is so true, I could not have said it better myself

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Aug 21, 2007, 1:31 pm PDT

I'm not going to be the one to miscredit this entry, but I will say that it does have an intended audience. This entry cannot be generalized of ALL relationships(I agree however that many prefer this 'non-clingy' type of relationship) because some couples do enjoy/prefer their OWN company. Upon reading it, I even thought for a second that he was dropping hints to a lover nearby...

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Aug 21, 2007, 1:32 pm PDT

Oh please to all the girls that think guys are too clingy. Maybe some are.... but that's NOT what this article was about. Stop worrying about him and fix your own problems. Dave is EXACTLY right. Clinginess is a turn-off.

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