1. Posted by happy_2_excel on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 5:45 am PDT

David, this is a great article & oh so true. I raise & train bird dogs, my significant other has no interest whatsoever .....that is until recently. Things have become a little strained around the edges and now, all of a sudden, he wants to get to know all my dog "buddies". You think he's jealous or is he trying to scope out who might be moving in on his turf?? LOL

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2. Posted by IR on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 7:39 am PDT

Robin's got a point there, if he was ever to find out you did it on purpose...there would be some $hit hitting the fan. I know if they were to ever do that crap around me it wouldn't last long.

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3. Posted by happy_2_excel on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 7:46 am PDT

Let me just state for the record ....I have not intentionally pushed any buttons, it's just his insecurity finally coming to the forefront. I have passed on some things other men have said to me as a means of getting his attention. That was 9 mos. ago. We've been together almost 24 years and have gotten to the point where he just takes for granted I will always be there ...... no matter what! Well guess what, I'm still there by choice, not because I've got to be. Let this be a word to the wise ..... each day is a choice. Remember that and you should have it made.

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4. Posted by on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 9:34 am PDT

even though you think the woman likes you, a smart man knows that competetion is always out there and that 2nd place doesn't get the girl, like they say "love don't love nobody.."

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5. Posted by hotdonnalive on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 12:50 pm PDT

I agree with 5. This is a friendly fire. You want some attention not just to be there for when he is "ready". Some people just need to be reminded to appreciate once in awhile.

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6. Posted by happy_2_excel on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 12:51 pm PDT

Amen Roger! And a smart man knows that he should take competition seriously. She may not be looking but if he doesn't think he has to work at it any longer ......well, you get my drift.

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7. Posted by cindycececindi on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 1:25 pm PDT

I kept getting jealous of my husband, and he kept saying his wasnt insecure, but as soon as I started doing little things to push his buttons they shined through!

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8. Posted by on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 1:26 pm PDT

And if you don't show a woman that you're interested in her by making youself available to her, then she will think you're not interested and move on to someone else. In the end you lose, not because the other person is better, but because you didn't try to show her the real you.

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9. Posted by chrissy_snow84 on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 2:12 pm PDT

this is truly horrible advice. stay on the computer to make your man jealous? um if thats what you have to stoop to make your man interested in you, good f*in luck. why not just f*&^ his best friend? that should work!

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10. Posted by healeykm on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 2:57 pm PDT

Instead of advice on how to manipulate your partner, how about advice on honest communication and cooperation. It's interesting-the women who write articles for Men's Health advise men to remove all the jealousy triggers, David is advising to add a few.

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11. Posted by Amy Zhang on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 4:04 pm PDT

I have accidentally made my husband jealous. Here is my story. My ex-boyfriend stalked me when I was dating my husband. My husband loves me and tried so hard to protect me. It hurt him so deep that I didn’t think it was dangerous when my ex stalked me. Even up to now our sex life is impacted in a very negative way. My husband explained that our initial inner connection was broken due to the fear of losing me. The sexual desire for me didn’t establish in a deep way. And very often, I made my husband jealous but I didn’t realize it. To make him feel good, I lost all my habits and most of friends. So here is my question, how can I make my husband not jealous? Could any one explain in a logic way why the stalker killed my husband’s sexual desire for me?

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12. Posted by Karen M on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 8:20 pm PDT

#14. I agree. I don't want to have to make my BF jealous, I want to make things simple and pleasurable. Jealousy is never the best policy, in my book. I have been told men like a challenge...maybe so, but I'm not totally sure that is true. If I have to work and cannot meet my BF for dinner, he really get's upset. There's a lot to this. I don't think Dave said it all, but I would like to read the guys input to this post. K

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13. Posted by Karen M on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 8:22 pm PDT

My question is, why do we have to make men jealous? Where did fidelity go. AND, where is the LOVE??? Are we now just sex partners without emotion? What's the deal?

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14. Posted by hartofluv on Tue, Aug 07, 2007, 9:10 pm PDT

#15 There's a lot more here than meets the eye. First of all, by isolating you from your friends and discouraging you from doing the things you like to do, your husband is trying to control you in a very unhealthy way. My advice is to work on getting your self-esteem up so you can see your situation realistically: your husband is emotionally abusing you. He's making you think his sexual dysfunction is all your fault, but it's not!! My guess is that, among other things, his jealousy is so amplified that it turns into an inner rage that short-circuits his sexual desire. I'm sure there are many more details in your situation, however the first step has to be for you to be more self-aware. I know this will be a painful and difficult process, but don't feel that it's hopeless. You deserve to be treated better than that. You deserve to be loved for the wonderfully unique person that you are. Hope you can see the light soon and start healing yourself so you can lead a happier life. Good luck!

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15. Posted by happy_2_excel on Wed, Aug 08, 2007, 5:27 am PDT

To #17, the answer is yes ....we are just sex partners. I honestly think that if something happened and I was no longer able to meet his sexual needs he'd drop me like a hot potato. You tell me, where is the love????

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