1. Posted by lisha_ramirez on Mon, Jun 25, 2007, 1:02 pm PDT

This is great advice for any woman. I already tell my husband these things all the time and he loves hearing it. But, he's not always as thoughtful when it comes to me. What should I do to get his attention?

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2. Posted by klmonsour on Mon, Jun 25, 2007, 6:38 pm PDT

My guy is the best, and he knows it, b/c I always tell him how great he is...and it's no lie....he is the absolute best....good article. Thanks.

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3. Posted by teh_chefness on Mon, Jun 25, 2007, 7:18 pm PDT

I don't know, maybe it's just me, or if it's just a generational thing with people my age, but most of these, when said to myself or the majority of my friends, sound very sarcastic and sometimes insulting. Like I said, it's probably just me.

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4. Posted by ncnurfoust on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 5:15 am PDT

oh my, I could not beleive what I was reading. All of these compliments have in one way or another had an effect on my marriage. About 2 years ago I was sleeping. My husband came to bed late and proceeded to talk to me. I was dreaming..not really sure about what. I told him i my sleep state, "you know your arms are not really big at all." Oh my was I awake after that. To this day he has not let me forget that. He has a great sense of humor and most everyone likes him. He is an ego driven, testosterone high "real man." He is MY HERO. He is a cilvilian contractor in Mosul Iraq. I use many of the techniques illistrated here to help keep his moral up via telephone, e-mail and mail. He never admits fear, always denies defeat, and is always right. However, his goal every day is to make someone if not everyone smile. He can find the most unappealing women and make her feel like a million. I love this about him. He has many friends and goes out on a limb for them everyday. He values honestly, trust and loyalty in anyone who desires his reapect. I hear him lighten up when I belly laugh at his latest storfy. They get pretty bored over there. If I have a good idea that I know will rock his boat, I make it his idea and it fyies well. When I doubt is advise and find he was indeed right, I make a big deal out of it. " Well dear you were right about..let me tell you what happened." And I have found that when he is mad or frustated that I am the key to bulid him up no matter the issue. For example: if he calles me from Iraq and is angry about events at work, I tell him how proud of him I am and how much our family appriates what he is doing for us." It is true but no matter issue, men need and desire our praises and gradafications. they don't know how to ask for it like we do. Thank you David for more help getting into the psychology of "My Man." Val

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5. Posted by on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 7:02 am PDT

now can you write one for men to understand the 10 things that wow a women....

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6. Posted by Peter S on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 9:38 am PDT

You would think after a month between columns, you'd come back with something interesting to say. This is trite. It's not even a funny revisit to a tried topic. And why is there no hint that men might like to be commented on their intellect, personality, or achievements in fantasy sports?

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7. Posted by Peter S on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 9:41 am PDT

You would think that after a month between columns, DZ might come back with something interesting to say. This is trite. It's not even a humorous revisit to a tried topic. It's obvious. And why is there no indication that men might like to be complimented on two things that you don't seem to give us credit for having...intellect and personality.

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8. Posted by Ricardo C on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 11:05 am PDT

#6 - here's your answer; because that's not for men, that's for geeks. Real men play real sports.

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9. Posted by Deirdre P on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 12:41 pm PDT

One more something could have helped, The way you look at him. Keep on a little smile, because some guys can't navagate the mood with out some sort of feed back from your face. My guy for example has a tendency to react to my ever facal expression. This is hard ladies. I mean its like guys dont have their own way of thinking. All they want to do is please us. So ladies we hold the power while our compassionate hearts let our guys believe they hold it. Another, men like women who have great self confidience. So you could say something about your own body,(softly.). like "I love my sexy body, I could make love to myself all night long if you had to go out. Beleive me it works. Guys need just as much as girls but they have to hide it. Ladies we all should be confidient of our sexuality for we are all beautyful people and if your guy is with you all he wants is to be loved. We sometimes get caught up in worldly bull that we forget or dont know that men just need to feel good about themselves. If we take them to another world mentally I think they wouldn't cheat on us and they would treat us the same. So stop complaining or hasseling men ,try instead to show them love. You know the love that only us women can give threw our own wants and needs. The perfect relationship is possible threw all this lifes mess. We only live once so love, and let go of unnessacary hasseling. It can be true .

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10. Posted by Deirdre P on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 12:44 pm PDT

hey I read your comment and I had that problem IT's our facal expressions girl seriously. Try saying one of these with a slight smile and an inoccent face. They love that

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11. Posted by on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 1:47 pm PDT

Giving and receiving compliments is really the key.. not just for men, but for both sexes, we all want to feel like we are the most important person in their life.

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12. Posted by calucam on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 2:02 pm PDT

nice to hear a couple of those

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13. Posted by brookj15 on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 2:04 pm PDT

I know it is probably harsh, but I tend to be the person who brings guys mainly back down from cloud9. I have a super hard time giving a compliment when they have not yet stopped complimented themselves. Do you think they do not stop patting themselves on the back because they need a compliment from me? Maybe I should been the one who is nice...I just don't want the inflated head to POP.

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14. Posted by on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 2:33 pm PDT

so true.. but in order to give a compliment, the other person must be worthy enough to receive it first.

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15. Posted by Deirdre P on Tue, Jun 26, 2007, 3:27 pm PDT

Your right some guys need to have that hard to get type, but once they've got you you need a mixture of both You can playfully joke with them with a smile. But there are times when the hard to get role gets annoying and you should switch it up. Mess around alittle with his head, but always let him beleive what you say. If you know you love him you should give him complamantes even if he doesn't deserve them.

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