1. Posted by Ricardo C on Fri, May 25, 2007, 7:15 pm PDT

What a sad world you live in, and then, you actually think that others share your pathetic views. The only two reasons for doubts are insecurity, or the fact that your partner is not worth your trust, which one is it? Insecurity? Then grow up and get over it. Unworthy partner? Then end it, or continue being a masoquist and torturing yourself. A relationship seen from this guy's point of view is not worth it to begin with.

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2. Posted by teh_chefness on Fri, May 25, 2007, 9:23 pm PDT

#1 I'm sorry, was there a point to you insulting Zinczenko? It's okay to disagree with what he says, but is it really necessary to make the attempt to bring him down like this? Are you this hostile in your own relationships? I think, then, that you should heed his advice on account of that.

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3. Posted by cuetee3 on Fri, May 25, 2007, 9:40 pm PDT

Yep, U'r right.

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4. Posted by on Sat, May 26, 2007, 5:28 am PDT

I totally agree with Dave, drawing the line between friendship and romance is a tough choice for most of us.

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5. Posted by imaluckyamericanwoman on Sat, May 26, 2007, 6:04 am PDT

#1 In my opinion, you're not being realistic about relationships and the fact that you got so hot under the collar about this blog makes me wonder what's eating you? Or, were you just trying to stir up some controversy?

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6. Posted by Clarette L on Sat, May 26, 2007, 7:05 am PDT

dear david, please tell me how to seek advice from u asap... thanks!

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7. Posted by eddieataylor54495 on Sat, May 26, 2007, 10:43 am PDT

i my self am a woman i beleave love comes in all shapes and sizes but for this one time id like to know where do i go from here? I feel in love with a man we are to marrie ... but ,yes theres that but does he want what i want out of us?

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8. Posted by salsukkary on Sat, May 26, 2007, 8:31 pm PDT

it is avery good answers cuz i pass these all

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9. Posted by lovedove on Sun, May 27, 2007, 8:00 am PDT

I think this is a kind of generalistic assumption. Of course, I typically agree the co-worker and close friend are "trouble" so to speak, but unless your gut feelings is VERY clear or you and your partner are having problems I think you ought to be trusting. Jealousy in small increments says- "I do feel possessive of you, care about what you do" etc and it can make a person feel important. Jealousy in large increments says- "You're shallow, and I don't trust you." Just my thought.

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10. Posted by Deren C on Sun, May 27, 2007, 2:18 pm PDT

I think the author made some intelligent points. After reading about the different threats I had to sit back and think about how I interpreted them. Before this blog I would've thought that an ex would be more of a threat to a current relationship than an opposite sex friend. Looking at my own situation I have two very attractive female friends and one of them I do have strong romantic feelings for. Right now I don't have a girlfriend but I could imagine if I did and she met either one of my friends she'd be like, WTF!? Although looking at this information in a different light I wouldn't base the life of a relationship off the things discussed in this blog. No matter who you are or who your partner is there will always be a chance for infidelity. We can sit and talk about threat levels all day but that truly wouldn't do anyone good. You can't control how someone else feels or what they're going to do no matter how much you love them. Rather than worrying about what's a threat and what's not I'd take comfort in knowing that if my partner cheats I'll survive because I'll always be there to look out for me.

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11. Posted by Coolbreeze402 on Sun, May 27, 2007, 2:25 pm PDT

All the basketball news stuff was a lot easier....lol

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12. Posted by Karen M on Sun, May 27, 2007, 6:13 pm PDT

If the shoe fits...wear it.

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13. Posted by adrian_vngs on Sun, May 27, 2007, 8:04 pm PDT

Dont forget about roomates who are single and dont let the other person in a relationship be happy in their relationship.

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14. Posted by sara_johns on Sun, May 27, 2007, 8:13 pm PDT

#9-ask him, OK? #10-evangeline, I wouldn't like it either. She could even see that he should have taken you, and he didn't. I'm sorry, he sounds like a creep.

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15. Posted by john b on Mon, May 28, 2007, 3:17 am PDT

In my opinion, two things lead to such outcomes; lack of communication and excessive comfortability. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years and we have fallen victim to both. In the beginning of relationships, the similarities and differences spark the connection. Yet, these are the same things that break them. Either we get bored with the each other because we like the same things or we get frustrated with the differences. The opposite sex friend is the outcome of not being able to communicate with your partner. Your partner should be your best friend in all aspects because in the end, who is going to be there for you unconditionally? The co-worker and opposite sex friend can be a threat from the comfortability at home. A daily routine leads to boredom where both parties are looking for that spark from someone or somewhere else.

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