16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 2:35 am PDT

#2, didnt mean to get an attitude in the last article, but thought i'd respond to you directly and tell you that telling your lunch date everything that's going on in your live is also wrong.. but i will tell you that i'm cashing out my ira account to pay off the rest of the debts in my marriage, including her mom's credit card that we used, move out of the family home in june, and start the process of healing by living my life for myself again. it's not important that my lunch date is in my life or not right now, that's her decision and her's alone.

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 5:35 am PDT

I agree very much with the one regarding his/her friends. For me my boyfriend's friends are like his family, and he has known them longer than me, so I even do not think of criticizing any of them. If I would not like any of them, I say that the world is big enough and I could always find a place for myself to move away and not be with them at some moment. For me my partner is a package, with pluses and minuses and I love him with everything he is and he is not.

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 6:25 am PDT

#11 - Not saying something that could be hurtful to your partner is not necessarily the same this as lying. I agree honesty & communication is key but some opinions & thoughts are unconstructive & should be kept to yourself.

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 6:31 am PDT

Well...I can't say I entirely agree with this article. First thing being that once you've been in a relationship for awhile you should NOT just let him be around a friend that's a "bad influence". Perhaps those were the wrong words to use, but I would never let some one I love be around some that would bring him down or possibly get him hurt. Secondly...the whole "I can't live without you thing"...yeah, it's a little creepy when you say it like that, but me and my fiance always say back and forth to each other "what would I ever do without you?" Pretty much has the same meaning...but with a real "I appretiate you" feeling too. Makes me smile everytime. I believe it's a much better way to word it.

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 7:00 am PDT

Jeez #19, If you feel it's appropriate for you to "let" or "not let" your fiance be around certain people, I think you are both (mostly him) in for a very tough marriage! If you don't have enough respect or admiration for him as he is and feel you need to monitor or change him, this is a very well travled road that leads to so much hell for a man. If someone is not right for you, drop him, don't try to change him. Women marry men thinking they can change them, Men marry women thinking they will stay the same, both are dissappointed.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 7:13 am PDT

When I read you page...there is so much I could say, but I see no need. I always agree with the majority of your views. You also point out many truths that I am blind to at the time, and I thank you for that! I am a mature 20yr.old lady who feels it is so imporant to have very helathy relationships. I get overwhelmed with how good your page is, and it has become essential to check. The only comment I have to say is you are SO AWESOME!!!!!

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 7:54 am PDT

#20 - Well said & so true! I married young & when I did get married my thinking was I didn't want to change him, I just wanted him to mature. Hindsight tells me it's the same thing. I was wrong, & our road has been a difficult one to say the least.

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:41 am PDT

hmm i dont like it... but i must agree 100 percent. but question..do men even really care when u tell them they dont look their best? they arent as serious about that topic like woman.. r they??

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:42 am PDT

Please don't ever leave me! Guilty of this in marriage one, I see how desperate and needy that made me look and feel.Again, need to have a life of your own so one person is not your whole world.

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:44 am PDT

Totally agree!!!

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:44 am PDT

Good advice I would say ! Can't wait to get the "what you should not keep from your partner list".

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:45 am PDT

At least this was NOT another one of this authors frequent male bashing articles. Must have been painful for him to churn out something neutral.

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:46 am PDT

well said, sir!

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:46 am PDT

Some things are to be retained in your private memory bank and not be presented to burden your partner, spouse or friend.

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 18, 2007, 9:47 am PDT

BULLHIT

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