16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Mon, Apr 30, 2007, 1:11 pm PDT

all great advice david! i just blogged about the same thing on my site, please feel free to check it out: http://www.norcalblogs.com/iconoclastic/2007/04/his_hers_first_date_advice.html#more

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, May 01, 2007, 6:50 am PDT

Let's discuss things not to say on a first date. "WoW, I have that same dress" "We better hury up this viagra only last 4hrs"

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, May 01, 2007, 7:29 am PDT

Does this count? I have been seeing my best friend at work innocently having lunch together while I'm still married, yeah that lasted about a month and now I don't know whether to end it or continue trying to see her. The problem is that I really do like her, but don't want to give her the wrong impression. So how do I get past the multiple BF issue, girls don't wait forever?

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, May 01, 2007, 6:22 pm PDT

David, what's the difference between saying: "Got any cool summer trips lined up?" and "Where you headed for vacation?" Seems a bit redundant to me. Isn't once enough after it's been asked?

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, May 01, 2007, 6:38 pm PDT

I think I would put "What's on your ipod?" and "Read any good blogs lately?" in the Not That Category too. It sounds a bit contrived. I think it's better to simply ask a person what they like to read or what music they like to listen to rather than specify the format in which you think they engage doing it in. It may limit the conversation if the person doesn't own an ipod or doesn't read blogs.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, May 01, 2007, 7:20 pm PDT

#18, Viagra works about 4 hours, Cialis lasts the weekend...Check it out on WebMD...

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, May 01, 2007, 7:22 pm PDT

#19, chuckle....it's been a little longer...gotcha!

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, May 02, 2007, 7:56 am PDT

Are you wearing any underwear?

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, May 02, 2007, 1:48 pm PDT

#23, okay so I haven't been totally innocent here and March 23rd is more than a month, unless you're going back further.. I still think she'd be better off without me in her life sometimes, but I suppose only she would know that. Anyone think seeing a co-worker is better than asking someone I don't know out on a first date and not having a clue what to say..

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, May 02, 2007, 7:49 pm PDT

LOLOL

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 03, 2007, 4:31 am PDT

Pardon me for being angry at women, I guess it has been building up for the last 16 years and I'm not a mean person. Today is May 3rd and also my ex-wife's anniversary, last time I went out on a first date was with her back in 1985, and we know how that marriage ended if you've been reading the previous blogs here, pretty bad for both of us.. so you can see why I'm not up on dating someone at the moment. I never dated my current wife, no first date (unless you count the one time I took her to see a concert while I was still married) and then finally after she abused me enough then we had sex, she was the one in control the whole time, and I just want to move on with my life and start over. So I guess I'm on the wrong column cause I don't see dating in my future.

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 03, 2007, 7:22 am PDT

Ok.. so I've got issues..

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 03, 2007, 1:55 pm PDT

#27 - Sounds like your last break-up was pretty recent. You need to heal from your experiences before you could think about dating again. If you continue to feel a lot of pain and anger inside, especially towards women, would you consider seeing a therapist? It would be worth your while. Everyone deserves to be happy, but first you need to work on this old baggage before you can make room for anyone new. Good luck!!

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 03, 2007, 2:59 pm PDT

thanks for the advice, I couldn't agree with you more, but unfortunately I am still going through a break-up process with my current wife of 16 years.

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 04, 2007, 6:47 am PDT

I don't want to hold up the discussion and would like to hear others viewpoints on dating. Yesterday was just a bad day for me, but I think it's important to know what not to say on a first date, like bringing up the past, or talking about the ex.. You also shouldn't expect the other person to solve your problems, or for you to be the only person in their life.. I mean, it's supposed to be about finding someone that likes you, isn't it?

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