16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 11:41 am PDT

P.S. My apologies for the length! I frequently blog and I haven't really gotten this off my chest yet and it shows. ha.

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 12:02 pm PDT

I dated a man for almost two years, we were engaged last September. In October, he suddenly decided he couldn't get married that "he had things to deal with from his past". Within a week he had met another woman, moved her into his apartment by December, engaged in February, married in March. Meanwhile I am sitting here wondering why I can't even contemplate going out on a date yet muchless making the huge leaps he has. I am sure there are women that do the same thing (I am not a man basher) but I do wonder how it can be so easy to hop from one person to the next. I am happy again but I am still no closer to dating.

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 12:12 pm PDT

alrighty.then99 - I think you're totally jaded against men. All the men that I know - including the one who I just broke it off with has been REALLY bothered by it, and has NOT moved on to another woman within days. I do agree that men, IN GENERAL - have a harder time being alone than women do - bu they are NOT the insesitive, unfeeling, and uncaring creatures you make them out to be. Men love to fall in love as much as women do. They just do it in different ways. If any of you haven't read Mard and Venus on a Date by Dr. John Gray - I highly recommend it. It was an invaluable resource to me in this jungle in America that we call dating!

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 12:51 pm PDT

#20: I just call 'em as I see 'em. Regarding "...this jungle in America that we call dating." Yeah, dating's a jungle, and I'm a city-girl; I got out alive & am NEVER goin' back in.

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 6:36 pm PDT

thank you.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 6:40 pm PDT

It is not a mater of gender - it is a matter of who was the breaker and who the breakie. If you want the break-up and initiate it, then OBVIOUSLY, you will handle it better than the person you break up with.

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 6:43 pm PDT

marq_wilkins #4 - I am guessing you have been broken up with A LOT and IT WILL KEEP HAPPENING as long as you continue to be a dumbass.

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 6:46 pm PDT

alrighty.then99 #15 - Never been in love, huh ?

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 7:17 pm PDT

Maybe it's women that suffer more than the men because they stand to lose more at the end of the relationship. Let's face it, men are still marriage material at the end of every severed relationship. Women? They are viewed like baggage, especially by the age of 30, and before then if they have children at their side. There has always been a double standard regarding the liability factor between men and women after a break up as much as you like to perceive all things are equal afterwards or worse for men, it's not. Don't try and humor the women into thinking they've got it easier socially after a break up. Many women are isolated after a break up. All they do is work, take care of their children, and sleep. They don't get out and socialize. Men have more free time in their schedule to socialize at the end of a relationship if they aren't the primary caretakers of children in a prior relationship. Women don't have that same luxury.

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 7:43 pm PDT

#27, that is the truth, why don't you tell the truth for a change, or do you even know what the truth is...

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Apr 10, 2007, 7:45 pm PDT

#27, I have not lied at all on here, but you sure have, your credibility doesn't exist!

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Apr 11, 2007, 7:12 am PDT

so if u been with ur guy on and off for 7 years and have a child together how hard will the breaking up be for both sides but they both love each other unconditionally always

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Apr 11, 2007, 7:25 am PDT

I think that at first it is harder for us females, because we put so much into a relationship, but in the long run it really gets to a male when a relationship ends. Men don't tend to discuss their feelings with too many people so they keep everything inside. We females do cry, and get it all out and done with. If the relationship ends mutually, then it usually bothers a males ego alot more than they are willing to admit.

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Apr 11, 2007, 7:27 am PDT

I THINK MEN HANDLES BREAKUPS BETTER FOR THE SIMPLE FACT THAT THEY CAN MASK THEIR PAIN MORE BETTER.Women are more emotional and cant they have to cry to feel better or talk about it to someone we have to vent some way.

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Apr 11, 2007, 7:35 am PDT

sorry i mess that comment up allow me to repost i think men handles break-up better because they tend to mask their feelings we tend to let ours out so it helps us to deal with the pain but it tend to show a male can be hurting inside and u wouldn't even know if you don't really know the person. but men defintely handles pain better do you agree??

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