4621. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Feb 29, 2008, 11:08 pm PST

How to win the cheated woman back? Isnt that the question asked by the males? Well, there isnt a quick fix to this. If the woman is still talking to you, you're in better luck than most. Being cheated on breaks their trust. Its like you're back at square one where you walk into the bar and try to start talking to her. Except now you have cheater tattooed on your forehead. And all she'll see is that other girl/s. And all those times you held her after a night of wonderful love making will seem like they meant nothing to you since you were spending the same with another girl as well. How to win the cheated woman back? Easily- you don't. Fifty years down the line, she could look at you and still see that one mistake. It all depends on if she can get over it too. That's why its called a RELATIONSHIP, people. If its one sided, not much is going to change. If both of you are willing to work on it, then kudos. I hope you have a happy life together.

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4622. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Feb 29, 2008, 11:11 pm PST

How to win the cheated woman back? Isnt that the question asked by the males? Well, there isnt a quick fix to this. If the woman is still talking to you, you're in better luck than most. Being cheated on breaks their trust. Its like you're back at square one where you walk into the bar and try to start talking to her. Except now you have cheater tattooed on your forehead. And all she'll see is that other girl/s. And all those times you held her after a night of wonderful love making will seem like they meant nothing to you since you were spending the same with another girl as well. How to win the cheated woman back? Easily- you don't. Fifty years down the line, she could look at you and still see that one mistake. It all depends on if she can get over it too. That's why its called a RELATIONSHIP, people. If its one sided, not much is going to change. If both of you are willing to work on it, then kudos. I hope you have a happy life together.

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4623. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Mar 05, 2008, 6:40 pm PST

Once a cheat always a cheat... dalpe

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4624. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 08, 2008, 1:28 pm PDT

Rather than changing partners, something inside of the cheater needs to change, otherwise he brings HIS same issues into the next realtionship. Most people call it baggage. When some one cheats on some one else, it is about the cheater, not the 3rd party or the spouse. Most likely the cheater has issues, whether it is a personality disorder, addiction, or he is just a player. It is not always a reflection of the relationship itself, but the morals, or lack thereof in the cheater. Unless they work on their issues they continue to cheat no matter what relationship he is. I agree that a cheater can change, but he has to want to change...it has to come from within, not between the legs of his next conquest. He needs to do the deep down soul searching and slay his demons before that can happen. Until then he is in no condition to be in any reciprocal relationship/ The experts all agree, that while some cheaters are not getting their needs met, the majority of cheaters have overly benefited in the relationship. Meaning, they didn't need to work at it, it was too easy becausee the spouse did all the relationship work. It needs to be as close to 50/50 as possible if a relationship is to work. But many men feel if they bring home the bacon that is all that is required of them and many women accept that's the way it is. These guys then get a sense of entitlement and feel they have the right to cheat. Most of those don't leave their wives for the 3rd party...they are cake eaters! They want it all no matter who it hurts...it's all about them...that's what they've been taught. These are the guys that don't change until they do lose everything. But chances are their wives ahve put a lot of energy and effort into the marriage and don't walk away. So, nothing really changes! Basically, there are all different types of affairs and it depends on the type of affair whether or not it has anything to do with the relationship itself or and inherit flaw in the cheater. It isn't as cut and dry as described in this blog. It is far more complicated and tragic, especially when cheating destroys families.

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4625. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Jun 18, 2008, 6:52 pm PDT

iv been with a man he is 70 nowhe was 64 when we met .. he just cant help him self with cheating it dont take mch for him

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4626. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Jun 18, 2008, 6:53 pm PDT

iv been with a man he is 70 nowhe was 64 when we met .. he just cant help him self with cheating it dont take mch for him

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4627. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Oct 07, 2008, 11:54 am PDT

cheaters cant change once a cheater always a cheater

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4628. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Oct 07, 2008, 12:38 pm PDT

i have been in a relationship with a lady for 2 years during this time i found out that she slept with a guy who i considerd to be my friend everyday she would leave work come down to where we were and we would kiss and everything well i use to see the way they would look at one another and i told them that it was ok if they wanted to be an item but they both said no no no no well me and the lady started seeing each other about 4 months into the relationship i had a feeling that something went on between them during that time when she first started comming down to see me well my fears were true and they did sleep together she says it happened before we were officially together what do i do ive been wrestling with this for a year and a half

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4629. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Oct 21, 2008, 1:49 pm PDT

Actually cheating made our relationship stronger just theres no trust :\

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4630. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Dec 26, 2008, 5:15 pm PST

I do believe that once a cheater, always a cheater. The only way they will and can change is if one, God changes them and two, they want to change.

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4631. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Jan 15, 2009, 7:20 am PST

No - cheaters do not change. They might lay low for awhile, but they soon return to their cheating ways. Plus, when the cheater knows that their sig. other will take them back, they are more likely to cheat again and again and again. I had a guy I was dating for several months stop talking to me b/c I think he went back to his cheating ex/baby's mother. One thing is for certain, he can't come back to me that's for sure.

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4632. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Tue, Feb 10, 2009, 2:57 am PST

NOPE!! once they cheat ...they do it again! my ex for 3 years cheated with what i know of is 5 women all divorce.( could be more) all on the internet (girls from assuie & one from the states..& that one he sent money too)....plus the porn that i found!! he promised these women that he would bring them to him also...which never happened. i found this all on the computer. he denied it....but i had all the proof. so, he divorce me after i found his secret.....so women be careful if your man spends alot of time behind the computer and you need a passwork to get into your computer at home...he is doing something he should not be doing!!!

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4633. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, May 14, 2009, 12:44 pm PDT

"once a cheater always a cheater" is a quote made to scare people so as to keep them from cheating. induce fear, people tend to stay clear.. if you cheat you can recover and not cheat ever again. but you have to dig so super deep to find the reason you cheated, and learn from it. i cheated because of my sexual abuse as a child. i take responsibility for putting myself in the situation but not for the action of intercourse. In my head i wanted to move, i wanted to speak but i was like a deer stuck in the headlights, i lost completely control of my body and voicebox. and i let someone have his way with my body despite trying so hard to move or speak to save keep my relationship whole and untainted, undamaged. it has brought out a lot of repressed memories from my childhood abuse and im learning from it. once a cheater, learn from your mistake

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4634. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, May 22, 2009, 2:56 pm PDT

gawd I have been a bad cheater ...but when my ex fiance said " If you cheat on me, EVER.. I will never speak to you"..and I never did cheat ..after that.

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4635. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Wed, Jun 10, 2009, 1:30 pm PDT

I'am about 7 mths pregnant and just found my bf cheating. Don't know WTF to do cause I really don't want my baby going from house to house if he moves out. I found out about 3 wks ago. He was talking to 7 girls and was sleeping with two of them. One told me she knew nothing about me and the other girl told me that she knows about me and don't care cause they are not going to stop seeing one another. So of course he cried told me he would never do it again, changed his number and Blah Blah. But about 3 Dys ago I seen he got a texts from the some girl, that told me she did care about me. YES!! on his new number. Plz Help? I don't know WTF to do?

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