16. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 15, 2007, 7:44 pm PDT

So just curious 3,4, now that we've all told you that U are a loser, are you 90 or 100, as a previous post said, slavery went out about then. If you are 20 - 30 you might as well ask some one to "beam you up" (scotty) cause you don't belong on earth... there is fire waiting for an ignorant attitude like yours.

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17. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 15, 2007, 8:14 pm PDT

I just don't think 3/4 was actually serious - nobody could be that big of a jerk and actually take the time to read articles like this... I think he's just some girlfriendless loner that got bored and posted his fantasy here...

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18. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 15, 2007, 8:16 pm PDT

As for the article - I think it's important for both parties to establish their independence within the relationship so that nobody ever feels suffocated :) We all need tiem to ourselves and passions that are our own - it's about embracing who you are and loving life! :) That's what I find attractive in other people - friends included...

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19. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 15, 2007, 9:23 pm PDT

OK, I guess it's only fair to post on topic so I'll put my bit in (considering now, I am a woma LOL). Expectations and projecting timelines are, I think, a big problems. Staying grounded in reality and being honest are key! I don't think there's anything wrong with telling I guy my feelings, but I don't expect a return or have expectations because of how I feel - there needs to be mutuality. I think that's a big thing for women to remember. I also think that women need to remember that guys get scared too, and sometimes want to ruch things that should take more time, and that's OK as longs as there is honest communication! It's important for both partners to still have their own lives. Also, in my experience, a guy needs to know he is needed and contributing to the woman's life in a meaningful way, especially a woman who is confident and independant. I think it's hard for a man to keep his love alive if he doesn't feel that he is needed, appreciated and included, but without being the be-all and end-all of a woman's life. My 2 cents worth! oh yeah, and the old line about "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? Uh-uh - it's a good bl@wj@b! LMAO!!

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20. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 6:50 am PDT

In my experience, there has always been a combination of moments and experiences that push me over a tipping point. Usually I am completely oblivious and removed from what she is doing initally. But then one day, one little act or spoken word and all of the sudden the fog clears and everything comes together and then it's bliss. Now if I can just get them to stop freaking out when I return the favor.

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21. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 7:26 am PDT

David's notion of what "makes" men fall in love seem absurd - it is not a particular type of woman or her activities that determine this, it is simply the energy between two people and a deep level of understanding of each other's spirit. To suggest that women should possess certain traits entirely excludes the mystery surrounding love and suggests that each person has the potential to fall in love with anyone at all providing the habits are acceptable.

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22. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 8:11 am PDT

i dont think men under 25 can experience deep emotional LOVE yet

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23. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 10:16 am PDT

#3/4 sounds more like a wannabe, something he dreams about and wrote to see if he can find it. Also, that's not the description of an old fashioned girl, I know a few of those, and they are not slaves looking for a master. #22 - you have actually pointed out one of the hardest things for men to find in today's America, a woman that will make us feel needed. Much too often, we hear women talking about how they don't need us anymore. Is it true? It doesn't matter, but to make us feel that way is what's terrible. The more a woman expresses her lack of need for us, the more we want to run out and find someone who does. We like a certain independance, self confidence, and capability to deal with life situations in a woman, but we like it even more when that same "strong woman" needs us. You may not need us, but we don't want to know, nor hear about it. When we fall for a woman is because we feel we need her, otherwise we would continue going from one to the next, so if she says that she doesn't need us, well...I think you get the idea.

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24. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 10:24 am PDT

vtcharlest I am an old fashion girl, but it seems that you have this poor girl chained. I was in an abusive relationship and though you may not physically abuse her you are destroying who she is. You wanted her for who she was not who you want to make her out to be. She is not your child that you should assign chores to her, if she is doing all that she does when does she get to be herself again. It seems that you have some self-esteem issues to work on. No one can say that they love someone and treat them the way that you do. If I could reach her I would tell her to run because that is not what love is all about.

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25. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 11:20 am PDT

If sex only comes in at 8%, why is it that 90% of guys will leave a woman if she refuses to give him any until marriage?

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26. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 12:55 pm PDT

cheverejd - It's good to hear a reasonable man's point of view about this topic. There seems to be, at least in my perspective, some misunderstanding between men and women about this. For instance, many women work because it bolsters their self-esteem and sense of worth as a responsible person. But yet some men take that as meaning that they are not needed. It really confuses me. I would think a man would welcome a woman who is self-sufficient financially so that as a couple, they can enjoy a better lifestyle without worrying about what's in the budget. I mean, if we can support ourselves, it doesn't mean that we'll run out on you. As long as the relationship is going well, both allow each other enough personal space and treat each with respect, we'll always need and want you. Oh the mystery of the sexes.......... Sigh!!

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27. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 12:59 pm PDT

I think vtcharlest (#3, 4) is just a sick individual who enjoys riling people up. He's posted on several blogs and it seems the negative feedback from other posters just spurs him on to write more ridiculous nonsense. Dream on, buddy!! Save your fantasies for your private journal.

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28. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 1:05 pm PDT

#3/4 I sincerely hope you are joking or maybe you are just a serious tool. coming from a real woman I hope that puppy you are abusing at home gets in shape drains your bank acct and leaves you for the hot guys at the gym you are "encouraging" her to visit. I normally tolerate just about any ignorant crap but you take the cake. Pat yourself on the back you win a** of the year award!

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29. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 1:33 pm PDT

What if the guy you been seeing and in fact pregnant for. Told you he didn't love you, but over the last few weeks found out about so for 3 other flings, dating ALL OF THEM, told them he loved them, and wanted to marry them one day, yet he told you, he doesn't tell anyone he loves them unless it is, and he is calous and cant love anyone. Yet, he is leaving a trail of broken hearts by telling all these girls he loves them. Two have moved on, one knows this and still loves him. Well maybe he needs love soooooooo bad, he is searching and trying to fulfill then needs and they never get fulfilled because its not love..........its lust. Love gives, lust is selfish, and can never get enough, the more you feed it the more it craves it..........

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30. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Fri, Mar 16, 2007, 2:17 pm PDT

#32....you find the man they call THE GRTZAMBONI!!!.....LOL...#3&4.....Your outta your f**king mind!!!!!Kittens, Cum talk to me and I will give u my take on it!...Starts with RESPECT!...xoxoxoxoxo.......GZ

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