1. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 11:08 am PST

I think women have a hard time finding the balance of agressiveness. How do we be agressive at work and turn it off in other areas. Sometimes the lines blur. Thanks for giving us the guys point of view!! It's very appreciated at the front line!

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2. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 11:18 am PST

No matter what we do, it's going to be wrong unless there is communication. It's very frustrating when men don't communicate their needs and our crystal ball is in the shop~

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3. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 11:19 am PST

No matter what we do, it's going to be wrong unless there is communication. It's very frustrating when men don't communicate their needs and our crystal ball is in the shop~

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4. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 11:25 am PST

I'm sure to get e-banged by alot of women but i have to tell you anyway'I agree with you"how it all fell apart in the bigging i really dont know but when it fell apart womens rights started.dont get me wrong i think some of them are great like being able to vote but it just never stopped.women started leaving the home to work,kids lost alot because family life was slowly being changed.Then women wanted more money,better jobs until there was no family left to help the kids grow.The more we got the more we wanted.Families are no longer that important to our way of livin now and it will only get worse.

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5. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:08 pm PST

Sure, commitment (marriage) was much more common in the past. Why wouldn't it be? Years ago, a woman's very survival depended upon it. Without a man, she'd be living on the streets & starving. Things have changed. Women don't NEED men anymore. If they WANT one, that's great, but since "landing a man" is not a requirement for survival anymore, it's not that urgent. How many of our female ancestors would have married the same person (or married at all?) if they'd had the choices & opportunities we have today. Years ago, men had total control of women - our behaviour, our lives, our choices, our bodies. I think that men today are simply angry that they don't have control over us anymore, and all their anti-feminism "women are too aggressive" attitude is just a gender-wide male temper-tantrum like a kid whose favorite toy has been taken away. They can't control us anymore & they don't like it. Things have equaled out a bit, and men do not have the ultimate power anymore. That must be frustrating for them. Most women I know, and myself included, still like men just fine. We simply won't stand for being pushed around or ignored in a relationship. Why be involved in one at all, if your emotional needs aren't being met? Better to stay "uncommitted" and hang out with my single girlfriends than to get involved with a guy who's either never happy with me, or ignores me, or tries to tell me what to do. Being single, or in short-term relationships is going to become more & more common. People can fight it all they want, but it's the way of the future. And I'm all for it.

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6. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:28 pm PST

I just finished two relationships (one long, one short) one right after the other. I saw a lot of these "relationships points" that caused some problems in the relationship. The long one was really aggressive in the hook up and the plateau, a good and bad thing. I was great to be connected with someone excited and really involved in the sexual part of the relationship but she also really want to drive the relationship in "her" direction without considering me. The short one was aggressive in the approach but wasn't aggressive enough in the link and the crossroads. Never really knew where we stood in the relationship and when things started going sour she wouldn't talk about and finally I had to just end it, with no real discussion.

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7. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:28 pm PST

I just finished two relationships (one long, one short) one right after the other. I saw a lot of these "relationships points" that caused some problems in the relationship. The long one was really aggressive in the hook up and the plateau, a good and bad thing. I was great to be connected with someone excited and really involved in the sexual part of the relationship but she also really want to drive the relationship in "her" direction without considering me. The short one was aggressive in the approach but wasn't aggressive enough in the link and the crossroads. Never really knew where we stood in the relationship and when things started going sour she wouldn't talk about and finally I had to just end it, with no real discussion.

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8. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:28 pm PST

I just finished two relationships (one long, one short) one right after the other. I saw a lot of these "relationships points" that caused some problems in the relationship. The long one was really aggressive in the hook up and the plateau, a good and bad thing. I was great to be connected with someone excited and really involved in the sexual part of the relationship but she also really want to drive the relationship in "her" direction without considering me. The short one was aggressive in the approach but wasn't aggressive enough in the link and the crossroads. Never really knew where we stood in the relationship and when things started going sour she wouldn't talk about and finally I had to just end it, with no real discussion.

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9. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:32 pm PST

Hell yeah! Very manly too.

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10. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:38 pm PST

My only comment is that - how are we women suppossed to know whether to be aggressive or passive in any given situation, depending on the guy, and the relationship? I mean alot of what you have to say here, may be very true - but where exactly does that leave us girls?? I mean, NOW WHAT??

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11. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:44 pm PST

#10 aimee Really it comes down to if the two of you work out... out if you should or shouldn't be aggressive. Some guys like women to take total control and some like a passive slave for a women. If those kinds of relationships make you happy that what you should go for... not take differently to get a guy.

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12. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 12:55 pm PST

aimee, didn't ya know? women's inuition! we're all psychic. we know instinctively what to do in any given situation. women just have a problem listening to too many other irrelevant opinions as a guide instead of the one that matters most. let your own voice inside your head start guiding you.

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13. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 4:16 pm PST

I agree being agressive to a certain extent will make a relationship stronger. But one thing that women tend to slip into when they are in a committed relationship is there independence and confidence. Once there is a sign of being ignored or he doesn't want to do the cute things he once did. Ladies all that is in our control not theirs! Its just having the balls to stick to it. Why are we the ones that think all the time and they dont. Turn it around! Agressiveness is a plus

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14. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 5:39 pm PST

Personnally,I like an aggressive woman,even more so,if she maintains the attitude with her pocket book,I said HER pocket book.

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15. Posted by A Yahoo! Health User on Thu, Mar 08, 2007, 7:43 pm PST

There has to be a happy medium in a relationship. There has to be "give and take." If you know your partner, then you know where to draw the line. Women are strong in the business world out of need, not desire. There has been such an excalation of divorce, b/c it has unfortunately become the norm. That being said, after divorce, the woman has to fend for herself. That in itself has initiated the need to become aggressive to succeed and to make the paycheck needed to take care of themselves and the children (if there are any). I don't think it's out of choice that some of us have resorted to aggressive behavior, I believe it has become a necessary evil.

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