1. Posted by boxmastertall on Thu, Jul 26, 2007, 6:54 pm PDT

Beautifull topic,until you wake up and realize your own behaviours may need to be examined,it is futile to be stressing yourself out over others.

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2. Posted by Ryan on Thu, Jul 26, 2007, 7:15 pm PDT

There's no solution to difficult people unless they get themselves canned for gross incompetence. My life has been ruined by these people, there's one everywhere I go.

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3. Posted by risa on Fri, Jul 27, 2007, 5:48 am PDT

I am dealing with an unthoughtful coworker now. Thanks for making me that this is a problem for alot of people, as we are all so different. I need a suit of armor around her so she cannot pierce my heart with her little darts.

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4. Posted by wish_i_knew_all on Fri, Jul 27, 2007, 6:40 pm PDT

You are absolutely right about there being difficult people in every job. But what do you do about someone who is not difficult, but only wants to do your job intead of their own. Therefore causing you to feel like a dying animal being circled by a huge vulture with no escape, but to quit your job. Only upon quitting your job, your boss begs you to come back and promises to improve the situation, only to have the problem escalte even more. And the vulture eventually gets you fired and takes your job away. Then follows you to your new job and causes you problems there. Transforming from a vulture to a lion hunting its prey.

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5. Posted by Bill on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:21 am PDT

The sad fact of the office jerk situation is that they often don't know that they are being jerks. Clue them in.

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6. Posted by Kelly2009 on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:27 am PDT

"Oh, you're working with Mr. Difficult on that? I'm so sorry. I hear a bunch of people are getting a hitman if you want to contribute." What kind of recommendation is that??????

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7. Posted by Kelly2009 on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:27 am PDT

"Oh, you're working with Mr. Difficult on that? I'm so sorry. I hear a bunch of people are getting a hitman if you want to contribute." What kind of recommendation is that??????

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8. Posted by Keira M on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:33 am PDT

It is difficult to have a heart to heart with someone when they consider your concerns and desire to express them and resolve the issues and tension childish. Worse when it is not just your overall boss but your supervisor as well.

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9. Posted by and the World Spins Madly On... on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:35 am PDT

It does bring some sanity when you realize that everyone has someone difficult in their lives to deal with. A decent article -- though I don't suggest the whole "hiring a hitman" scenario. It could bring a meeting with HR.

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10. Posted by meanuglybastard2u on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:40 am PDT

Possibly the worst advice I have EVER read. Hire a HITMAN?? Saying that is a good way to get yourself fired or austricised from your co-workers as "that psycho". An advice column should offer a little bit more tact in an example. Have a "heart to heart"?? Good way to offend the "bad" co-worker. But the main fault of the article is that it ignores self-examination. Often the "problem" person is oneself, as much as it is hard to swallow.

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11. Posted by Mary M on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:40 am PDT

people with that personality work style are not worth having a "sit down" it doesn't do any good - trust me - I've tried it.

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12. Posted by Tom from TX on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:47 am PDT

good, realistic advice that is practical and puts the initial responsibility on the employee, with suggestions on making it work, as well as extreme measures when one has 1st tried the reasonable approach -- well written with good advice (unlike the nonsense put out by ms. Trunck)

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13. Posted by surfer4776 on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:50 am PDT

well that sounds fine. But for me, I'm a high school girl that works with an older very in the psat rude guy. I was NOT about to go have a heart to heart with him. I just have to put up with it!

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14. Posted by Ryan on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:51 am PDT

I had an office jerk. We worked together for 3 months. Till one day i had enough, and stood up to him and his complaints, and constant picking. I told him i wasn't gonna take it anymore. We had a long argument, my bosses and coworkers loved it, cause this guy was a royal pain in the butt for everyone. The next day i come in to work, and guess what... he had quit! LOL Best day at work i have had yet!

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15. Posted by kizzydogg2003 on Thu, Aug 09, 2007, 7:52 am PDT

I am an office manager for a small business. All of the employees are difficult at least 3/4 of the time-they call in-leave early, hateful,sometimes surly. I have chosen to decide to have a good day no matter what. The only true thing I can control is my reaction to the nastiness.

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